Fear of “What They Will Say” is a Big Deal. Here’s Why.

What is the biggest roadblock that stops people from accomplishing their dreams?

You guessed it.

FEAR

Fear of what?

Failure, success, pressure, criticism, being in the spotlight, having to perform, perfectionism, procrastination, expectations, etc.

Whose criticism, whose expectations, perform for who?

For them.

Who’s them?

It comes down to how others will see you, judge you and whether or not they will like you.

If you’ve come across this fear of “what they will say” before, you’ve probably heard people say, “Who exactly is THEY?” “Who cares what they say.” “You be yourself and keep moving forward.”

Easy right?

Why don’t we just ignore “what they say” and live our spectacular dreams and goals?

Well, as it turns out, it’s not that easy.

This fear of the unknown “they”, is actually a real, visceral, legitimate, biological, hardwired fear.

It’s a fear or rejection, which ultimately translates to

A fear of death.

We are social creatures. Acceptance, belonging and social interaction are encoded into our survival systems. Not being liked means being rejected.

Rejection means no job, no business, no community, no support. Leaving you disconnected, in danger, and vulnerable to attack or starvation.

Ever see those nature shows when one of the antelopes gets separated from the rest? That’s the one that ultimately gets singled out by lions, pummeled and eaten alive.

What seems like an insignificant “They might not like me” excuse, is actually a deeply encoded biological survival mechanism. And uh, yeah good luck getting around that.

So now what?

Fortunately, there is a way to transcend your biological survival mechanisms.

We are human beings, AND we are also divine beings.

By stepping into your divinity, you are able to transcend the crippling grip of hardwired survivalism.

And how do you transcend into this exactly?

By using one of the most powerful energies in existence.

Love

Energetically speaking, you negate the vibration of fear with the vibration of love. This is known as energetic alchemy, leveraging the Law of Duality.

Here’s how:

1. Using awareness and concentrated mental direction to short-circuit your fear. “This is not an actual threat to me.” “I am safe.” “This is safe.” “Everything will be ok.”
2. Meditating
3. Being in the moment
4. Feeling love in your heart for yourself and for others (Metta Meditation)
5. Becoming inspired through movement, music, exercise, art, books, videos
6. Activating your parasympathetic nervous system to get you out of “fight or flight mode” into a relaxed state
7. Centering/ grounding

Meditation has the cumulative effect of bringing you into this divine awareness so that you can see situations from this perspective regularly.

Use these in combination. Use your awareness to realize you are afraid, (instead of just procrastinating), relax, center, come into the moment and recognize that you are safe. Tell yourself that you are safe, that you are ok. Put on some inspirational content and move forward.

Transcend your survival systems. Transcend mediocracy. Step into your greatness.

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