Most of us can agree that life knows how to throw punches – hard. We have been lifted up, then beaten down again by life. Many of us try to avoid as much of that pain, that “suck”, those lows, as much as possible.
And we show social media just how successful we are at it.
We look for the highlights of our life to answer the questions, “How’ve you been?” and “What’s been going on?”
We wish, we manifest for more happiness, more success, more love, more beauty, more living in the moment. And yet, there are many moments in our life when we’re challenged, we’re afraid, we’re tired, we’re going through it.
But here’s the thing.
There is nothing wrong with you if you are not happy. The challenges of your life are the beautiful story for the main character, you, to learn, to improve, to transcend, to expand.
And a lot of time it looks like pain, it looks like failure. It looks like suck.
It’s time to embrace the contrast. Leverage the suck.
Let’s dive in.
The real gold in life is learning how to steer in the storm, dance in the fire, and befriend the darkness.
Generally speaking, we spend most of our time trying to be happy and comfortable. Making the temperature just right, eating when we are hungry, enjoying treats, and avoiding pain – physical, mental, and emotional. And yet, are still faced with this emptiness. This desire for more. This longing for the next better thing. That’s human.
And yet,
Pain is Where You Find Your Treasure
Something magical happens when you are able to face pain. Your way of thinking changes, your mind becomes more resilient, and your body becomes more resilient. Remember the post on anti-fragility? It’s basically this concept.
In adversity, you experience what some people call “character development” or “building character”. It makes you a better person. It brings people closer together. It’s where you discover what you’re made of, and you surprise yourself with your growth and strength.
Or you crash and burn and try again later.
Sometimes we call that failure. But then again it’s not really failure. It’s the uncomfortable place where our edges are. Where we generally have or do not have the skills for what we want to undertake or accomplish.
The Blessing of Failure Learning
We are made from our words as people.
Failure is not the right word. It is more apt to say learning.
Either we succeed or we learn. Failure is learning.
So we win, succeed, accomplish – or we learn.
What a blessing it is to learn.
Why?
Because you have the opportunity to see exactly how you can grow as a person. How you can “build character” and drop the illusion that you are “better” than you really are.
Sometimes you have to take a hard look at yourself and say, “Oh wow, I’m not that good” and this experience shows me where I can improve.
The Alchemy of Leveraging “Suck”
So to sum up, no checklist here. There is only 1 thing you need to do when things suck.
See it as your big chance to improve.
Your opportunity to learn.
To be challenged and overcome.
To become golden.
Unphased by the storm and enjoying the challenge of steering in it.
REFRAME your ATTITUDE to face the challenge. And to actually ENJOY the challenge. Or at least to sit in the conscious awareness and non judgementalism of the challenge.
Or feel sorry for yourself along the way.
There are 2 ways this goes,
If you absolutely cannot face the challenge, then get some rest. Treat yourself with grace and love and start again when you’re ready.
Face it.
So let’s say you decide to face it.
You’ve already won in improving your character and strength just by facing the challenge at hand. We’ll call this growth. A.k.a. you know how to do hard things.
You win at the challenge, leading to happiness and satisfaction. You reach your edge and expand.
Or
You fail learn. And this, my friend, is your golden moment where you are in “double suck”. You faced a hard challenge (which is painful) and did not succeed (that’s pain on pain).
Take a good honest look at yourself. Realize that you are missing certain skills, components, knowledge, etc. to succeed. Take note, write it down. Try again.
Take a deep breath of awareness and realize that you are an alchemist. Find joy in the process. Find pleasure in your painful growth. Smile in the storm of adversity.
Turning lead Suck Into Gold
It is in this very low moment, that you find yourself in the middle of this challenge, and you own your power by realizing that you are in control of your response. And you can choose to accept > then enjoy it.
How exactly? Let’s illustrate.
Remember the movie, 300? The Spartans are at war with the Persians.
The Persian says, “Our arrows will blot out the sun.” (<<< This is your challenge)
And the Spartan responds with “Then we will fight in the shade.” (<<< That’s you, alchemist, not only facing, but enjoying – LEVERAGING – the challenge to your best ability)
The Key
It takes practice. It may take time. It’s key to maintain awareness throughout.
See the Spartan’s face? He’s up for it. Embracing the challenge. Embracing the inner fire.
This is a thing that humans have that is usually tossed into our shadow side, or thrown into the “masochist” label. It’s that we actually enjoy a challenge and a little “suck”. We also call that “badass”.
And we like that – in movies, in superheroes, in fantasy. But when it comes to our own lives, we forget that we can choose to be the hero in our own lives. Or the victim.
Lean into your inner fire. Your inner strength. And see the golden opportunity of your expansion in the challenge.
Use animalistic energy + divine perspective.
Congratulations alchemist. This is a way to turn lead into gold. Side effects may include self-satisfaction, happiness, the conscious evolution of your spirit, and the liberty to experience life without shrinking, constraining, or resisting, reduced anxiety, and less feeling sorry for yourself. To realize, or see, your power.
The pandemic, wars, instability, fluctuation, and uncertainties of our time have tried and tested us as a global society. Not to mention the day-to-day stressors that demand our energy and sometimes our sanity.
It’s more important now than ever before to understand how to not get crushed under the weight of our current situation. How to not only “make it through”, but use it to our advantage.
To become anti-fragile.
What does being anti-fragile mean? How does it differ from resilience?
Resilience has been the name of the game lately.
But we can do things even better, right?
Let’s kick it up a notch and become anti-fragile.
Resilience is the ability to bounce back or overcome a hardship, strain or challenge. When something is resilient it is able to face its challenge, recover, and return back to its original state.
Anti-fragile is the ability to become stronger when faced with a challenge. The challenge itself is the catalyst for the growth, strength, or improvement of the anti-fragile subject.
So basically, the challenges and stressors that would break someone who is fragile actually make you stronger and better. They actually help you grow.
What are Stressors?
A stressor is anything that creates a stress response in the body. Whether that be a physical stressor, a psychological stressor.
They can be personal stressors such as a job loss or a relationship change, an illness, or the death of someone close to you. It can also be a macro stressor such as economic turmoil, political unrest, pandemic, or a natural disaster.
According to Dr. Karl Albrecht, a management consultant and conference speaker and a pioneer in the development of stress-reduction training, there are four common types of stress:
Time stress – Doing things at the wrong time, or running out of time.
Anticipatory stress – Stress about things that may occur in the future.
Situational stress – Emergency situations or situations beyond your control.
Encounter stress – Stress around the dynamic with other people.
Why Become Anti-fragile?
Yeah, I think it’s pretty clear given the times. (It’s 2022 as I write btw), but hey, let’s make it explicit.
It’s safe to say that pretty much all of us won’t have a perfect track record of good fortune, perfect circumstance, and all positive events in our lives. Almost all of us know what it feels like when something “brings us to our knees” or makes us feel “broken” or “unrepairable”.
Some of those challenging experiences may even classify as “traumatic” and make us trepidacious, afraid, and paralyzed to move forward.
You’ve probably heard of PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder, and you’re probably thinking, “Yeah, I have felt that” or “I definitely have felt that.” But have you heard of PTG – Post-traumatic growth?
Developed by psychologists Richard Tedeschi, Ph.D., and Lawrence Calhoun, Ph.D., in the mid-1990s, post-traumatic growth is a theory that explains that people who endure psychological struggle following adversity can often see positive growth afterward. How’s that for, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”?
No, you’re not broken. You’re here. You’ve made it this far. And you’re about to use all that shit as fuel for your betterment.
Most of us have found a way to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and pick up the pieces as best we can. We have found some inner strength or resilience.
If you’re feeling like you’re constantly getting kicked down, you’re not alone. And it’s exhausting.
And it’s time. Time to design the chaos, challenge, and disorder as the fuel for your growth, your success, and your thriving.
You with me?
Let’s become anti-fragile together 😎✨
Designing for Anti-Fragility
Once you understand what anti-fragile is, it’s important to know how to design for it. The body naturally designs for this in various ways. Muscles grow bigger and stronger due to stress, not without it. Bones become denser and stronger due to stress, and the release of certain helpful hormones occurs due to stress.
In order to become anti-fragile, there are tangible and intangible elements and systems we need to put into place. Keep in mind that when you decide to become anti-fragile there will be a restructuring that happens both in your mind and in your life.
Now, let’s design your life so that you thrive under stress.
Identify Your Fragilities and Priorities
Start with asking yourself, “Where in my life am I fragile?” “Where am I anti-fragile?”
Here’s a simple structure for you as you consider the various areas of your life. It’s an adaptation taken from the SPIRE technique, shared by Tal Ben-Shahar forerunner, pioneer, and advocate for happiness and Founder at Happiness Studies Academy & Potentialife.
I call my version, SPITFIRE.
The SPITFIRE Technique
S – Spiritual – Relationship with yourself, your higher self, God, source, the universe, etc.
P- Physical – Related to your body vitality and health.
I – Intellectual – Releated to your mind and knowledge capacities. IQ.
T – Traumatic – Traumas that occurred that may be a source of weakness, or strength.
F – Financial – Stability or preferences in the area of money and finances.
I – Independent – How well are you able to keep yourself alive without depending on others. This could be people close to you, or private and government services. This is also related to how well you can sustain your mental and emotional stability without the need for others to play a role.
R – Relational – The health and size of your social structure. Friends, family, and loved ones who are there for you and share time and caring with you.
E – Emotional – Your emotional wellbeing and EQ.
Identify your level of anti-fragility in each area by rating it a 1-10. 1 being completely fragile and 10 being completely anti-fragile.
Once you’ve rated yourself, begin with the area that you think requires the most attention and design for anti-fragility. Once you’ve improved that area you can move on to another section. Or you can choose to work on complimentary sections.
Here’s how.
Eliminate points of Fragility and Non-Serving Elements
Do your best to start with a clean slate by getting rid of anything that you’ve now found is non-serving, holding you down or creating fragility in your life. Create simplicity and an agile, flexible, mobile approach.
This means releasing non-serving thoughts, traumas, people who do not add value to your life, non-serving beliefs and fears, non-serving habits, and non-serving foods & drinks.
On another 1-10 scale, some of these will be pretty easy, while some of these will be hard as hell. If you want support, reach out to me at, Jacqueline@consciousnessliberty.com.
Add Redundancies
This one makes see cringe because I’m such a fan of efficiency and optimization. Although, when I look at nature, I can see the way redundancy is designed into it. Into our own design as humans. Some of our organs are duplicates, such as two kidneys, two lungs, etc.
What steps can you take here? Add a cushion to your finances, start storing extra food, stock up essential supplies, back up your files, buy a generator, create multiple streams of income, keep your money in various places and give yourself extra time. Basically, have a backup or a surplus of things that are important to you, thus eliminating single points of failure.
Diversify Strategies
Dare I say diversification as much as opposite strategies. For example, when investing, keep part of your portfolio conservative and take bigger risks with the other portion of your investments. Have a steady job, (or part-time job) and a side-hustle (more risk, bigger payoff). One side is conservative while the other is risk-taking. You get the benefits of both because they both have their pros and cons. Add diversity of income, and diversity of skills, create new opportunities and give yourself new options.
“Stop optimizing for today or tomorrow and start playing the long game.”
-Parrish
Allow for Chaos
Don’t expend energy trying to control every detail. Allow some room for chaos, obstacles, and things not going as planned. Design this into your plan so that you can expect it and accommodate it. Resist the urge to suppress randomness. So much energy is wasted trying to control everything into “your idea of what it should be”. Rather expect the chaos and move flexibly with it. As Bruce Lee said, “Be like water, my friend.” And bonus points if you use this chaotic energy, and your saved energy, to propel you.
Insert Stress Under Controlled Situations
Haha, after we talk about releasing control, it’s time to take back some of this control. Opposing strategies anyone?
Introducing stressors allows you to take advantage of the natural anti-fragility designed into your body.
Here are some examples:
Lift weights – strengthen your muscles
Do cardio (running, HIIT, etc.) to expand your stamina, heart and lung strength
Meditate – strengthen your mental control and awareness (taming the monkey mind)
Face your fears – Strengthen your mind and expand your abilities and capacities while befriending being outside your comfort zone
Insert discipline & Intentional habits – Strengthen your discipline while making challenging tasks easier over time due to the body’s natural ability to incorporate habits into effortless actions
Learn new things- learning can be painful for the brain, but it’s obvious why this is good. Besides gathering new useful knowledge, working the mind can strengthen and create new neural connections, keeping the learning centers of the brain active.
Start with Resilience
Before you can move from fragile to anti-fragile, it’s important to understand that unshakable state of resilience. Then you can build from there into anti-fragility. Lean into coping mechanisms such as journaling, exercise, meditation, self-care rituals, routines, cathartic release, and allowing yourself some grace. Learn about philosophies such as stoicism or Buddhism to help you cultivate an unshakable mindset. They are a helpful foundation on the road to anti-fragility.
Respect the Old
There is something to be said about the “tried and true”. Observe what has worked in the past and whether it still works. Take the path of least resistance by following what works.
And yet…
Take Small Risks
Taking small, calculated risks and stepping a little outside your comfort zone helps you grow and expand as a being. Plus with risk comes the payoff. I suggest it as one of your strategies as you diversify strategies.
Find Your Rock
Your rock is usually yourself or your faith. Don’t find your rock on anything you cannot directly control. That’s pretty much everything outside of yourself. (Unless we get metaphysical and the outside world is an extension and reflection of your inner world… ok so, anyway…. we’re carried away…) Just keep it simple for this one, lol.
Know yourself and what you value. Be very aware of where you put your self-esteem. By that I mean, don’t place it on others’ opinions of you (no not your parents, not your significant other), don’t place it on your performance, or compare yourself to others. I suggest placing your self-esteem on the simple fact that your existence is a miracle of beauty and epicness. The quickest way to recognize your inherent beauty and worth is to love yourself. Want some help with that? Check out my free 7-day course here, that helps you make a life-changing difference in your self-love.
If you have meaning or purpose (created by spiritual growth), you are more likely to overcome stressors. But what if you’re not “spiritual”? No problem, your “spirituality” is your relationship with yourself. With your own spirit and deep inner knowing.
Build Meaningful Relationships
Having a strong network of dependable, loving, good people around you creates an extra layer of support. It’s nice to know you are not alone.
And if you don’t have many close relationships, or even if you do, it’s important to start with building a meaningful relationship with yourself. Your own inner guidance and wisdom. Even if you’re alone, you’re not. Make sense?*
*(You can lean on your higher self, deep wisdom, or inner knowing).
Watch Your Mindset & Attitude
“Your mindset is how you see the world around you. And your attitude is how you interact with the world according to how you see things.”
What kind of mindset do you approach chaos and disorder from? “Oh shoot, why is this happening?” “Oh poor me,” or “Bring it on!” “Let’s see what I can do.” “I can learn from this” “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”
It is natural in pretty much everyone’s psychology to drop into the “victim mindset” when faced with an unwanted challenge.
Notice it. Honor it. Grow from it.
Speaking of which…
Reframe Your Stressors and Learn from Them
Failure, being wrong, missed deadlines, projects falling flat, losing a lot of money, not having the skills, not knowing the answer. It’s time to reframe these painful experiences not as a reflection of something you are lacking, but rather as an indicator of something to aim for. As an opportunity that shows you where you can get better. In Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset, she makes a distinction between the growth and fixed mindset. Use the one that works for you.
The fixed mindset believes that you were born with natural skills and smarts. And what you got is just who you are. And you need to accept that. Super non-serving for challenges.
The growth mindset believes that you have the capacity to acquire and learn the skills to achieve the goals that you would like to achieve.
Now that you know how to become anti-fragile. Take it a step at a time, to the extent that you design and what works best for you.
If you want some inspiration, check out David Goggins’ story. He’s one of the best examples of an anti-fragile man. He used the hardships and traumas he faced as a child, to become better. He then went through military and seal training to endure hardships and stressors that strengthened his mind, his body and his character. Hats off!
In this case, we’ll have it be whatever you want to achieve or obtain. The attainment of a goal that is important to you and part of your plan.
“You know when you’re successful when you feel fulfillment. If you feel stuck or empty, you’re doing it wrong.”
-Consciousness Liberty
For those of you who don’t know me, my mission is to help you free your consciousness and help redefine the paradigms that we live and work by.
One of those paradigms is the “work hard” wave we’ve been riding in our working culture. American culture, Chinese culture, and many others we have glorified working long hours, “putting in overtime”, “grinding”, “working hard” and “being on-call”.
I don’t know about you, but for me, doing things hardusually means that your skillset is not well equipped for the task at hand.
When you are properly equipped for a task, it is not hard, it’s fluid, it’s enjoyable, it’s effective and efficient, (and in some cases masterful). It’s not hard.
Hard is not optimal. It’s an indicator of friction and by definition an indicator of expending, energy, effort, force or strength into a task.
It’s force. Not power.
And that’s an important difference.
Due to this “work hard” culture, we overwork to the point of compromising our health, our happiness, our productivity, enjoyment, and ultimately – our success.
We’re Too Busy to Create Our Own Success
Our obsession with pushing and working long hours, actually makes us more inefficient in our work. For example, we expect our coworkers to put in long hours, so we take long lunches, schedule long meetings and run them poorly. Being poorly prepared for a meeting and wasting time.
Plus…
It ignores this critical component of success nobody talks about.
Reflection
Why?
We’re too busy being busy, and sharing with everyone how busy we are. We don’t make the time to come up for a breather and realign on our priorities, activities, and the way we do them.
We are in a whirlwind of work that always fills up the time allotted.
And boy do we give it time.
Most of our time.
It’s important to reflect on our tasks and consider,
What’s the impact of this?
Is this getting me closer to my ultimate goal?
What is my ultimate goal?
If you don’t know the answers to these questions, you’re expending a lot of energy on activities that fill up your day, and ultimately your life, and take you no closer to your success.
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always be where you’ve always been.”
– T.D. Jakes
Reflection, the Missing Piece to Your Success
You know how at the beginning of this article we talked about how success is personal?
Well, that’s a big deal because you can be a “high performer” at work and be rewarded for your long hours and extra effort and not be “successful” because you’re not fulfilled. You’re checking off tasks at work, but they aren’t the tasks that really matter to you.
Or you may be struggling to keep up at work, and compromising your health and your most precious relationships.
And may not even realize it when it’s happening because you’re too busy.
“Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.”
– Margaret J. Wheatley
The Benefits of Reflection
If you’re used to the “go, go, go”, “caffeine and crush”, “sleep when you’re dead” culture, reflection can seem painstaking, or worse, a waste of time.
So, why reflect?
Besides the fact that the most famous Emperor of Rome did.
Anyway, so here’s why.
Reflection allows you to gain perspective, deeper wisdom, more alignment, plan new more effective actions, more effective strategies, and gain insights and ideas that can be used to further maximize your time, processes, impact and potential.
University of Florida researchers found that those who start the day by thinking of the kind of leader they want to be were more effective at work.
A University of Zurich study concluded that reflecting on past personal challenges you’ve overcome helps you process negative experiences.
So, what do you get when you have that alignment?
When you’re doing the things that are most important to you?
Happiness and fulfillment.
And as Socrates once said, a life worth living.
Why Does Reflection Make Such a Big Difference?
We go through life having experiences. When you have significant experiences that are of high emotional intensity or high consequence, your mind will automatically create a reference point to better handle that specific situation (and situations like it). it’s a biological survival program.
This works pretty well for some basic life situations: don’t touch that plant again (it’s poison ivy). Don’t talk to that person(they are mean), eat that thing, (that was delicious). But sometimes situations get more complex and your biological survival system can backfire. Don’t speak your mind in the meeting (that was not well received).
As John C. Maxwell said, reflection turns experience into insight. Reflection fine-tunes what success means to you and what are the strategies and steps to get there.
And in some cases, it defines that.
“I never make the same mistake twice. I make it like five or six times, you know, just to be sure.”
-Unknown
Kind of funny how that quote is by Unknown. Anyway, let’s move on.
Types of Reflection
For the purpose of effectiveness, we’ll make a distinction between reflection and self-reflection. They are pretty much the same thing, but a distiction can be made that will improve your practice.
Self-reflection – What Socrates calls “knowing Thyself”. When you reflect on you. On your understanding of what “you” are.
Reflection – Distinguished by reflecting on your work, tasks at hand, projects, etc. in a specific situation.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
-Aristotle
How to Reflect
There are many exercises and ways to reflect. For our purposes here, let’s keep it simple.
Ask yourself questions. Self-dialogue.
Preferably write things down.
Remember, the quality of your questions will determine the quality of your results.
In a specific situation such as a project or event, there are some fundamental questions that can help you get the ball rolling.
What is my goal?
Is this serving my goal?
What did I do? What happened (cause)
What was the result? (result)
What could I have done better/different to have better results?
What valuable lessons did I realize?
How can I incorporate/ integrate these into my work, life, behavior?
What should I start doing? Stop doing?
That’s pretty much it. I suggest setting aside time every day or every week for reflection (Bonus points for scheduling it into your calendar). It’s a conscious design of the evolution of you. Many people find that various journaling practices are an excellent tool for reflection.
How to Self-Reflect
If you want to do general self-reflection, the same process applies.
Knowing yourself is a critical part of your wellbeing, success and fulfillment.
One of the greatest exemplars of reflection practice was the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius. His private writings to himself we published and popularized as the work, Meditations in the category of Stoic philosophy. The Meditations of the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius have been read by many historians, philosophers and leaders as they provide insights into the great mind of this Imperial Ruler.
Reflection & The Law of Duaity
In hermetic philosophy, there is a universal law known as the Law of Duality.
The practice of reflection satisfies this law, which maximizes your effectiveness. In this way, you can avoid burnout, boredom, and imbalance. And live a life that is fun, inspires your work and helps you work better.
If you are to compare work to weight lifting, it’s during the periods of rest that your muscles get stronger. It’s during your reflection time that you integrate and align your learnings.
And YOU get stronger.
The Practice of Reflection
In order for you to be successful in starting your new reflection habit, I invite you to create time and space for the reflection practice. Set yourself up for success by scheduling a recurring time in your calendar for this.
Here are some quotes to give you a gentle butt-kick of inspiration.
“Without deep reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people.”
-Albert Einstein
“People who have had little self-reflection live life in a huge reality blind-spot.”
-Bryant McGill
“The more reflective you are, the more effective you are.”
-Hall And Simeral
Let’s slow down to speed up together.
Refrences:
https://kidadl.com/articles/top-reflection-quotes-to-gain-perspective https://antimaximalist.com/self-reflection-quotes/ https://fromemuseum.org/challenges-faced-by-socrates/ https://nwyatt227.medium.com/3-lessons-to-live-by-from-marcus-aurelius-9c33759e9e77 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14623940903138266 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5703031/ https://web.media.mit.edu/~mres/clubhouse/handouts/reflection-v6.pdf Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/reflection-quotes
Let’s demystify the term “empaths” for all you empaths and “non-empaths” out there. Let’s get into the real deal of the common practice of “shielding” and what shielding is.
What’s An Empath?
An empath is a being who is sensitive to energy. They can sense what those around them, or close (in relationship) to them are thinking and feeling. They feel empathy for others to the point of “taking on” the emotions thoughts or feelings of others.
Who’s An Empath?
How do you know if you’re an empath? All beings are empaths. Those who are consciously aware and even practice tuning into their sensitivities will begin to classify themselves as “empaths”.
The Science Behind Empaths
Mirror Neurons & Empaths
The majority of people will understand and relate to what is meant by empathy; when you can feel what another is feeling based on them sharing the experience with you, being in your presence or watching someone go through the experience.
You can feel a spectrum of emotions including anger, joy, love, fear, sadness, etc.
In the brain, there are a class of neurons called mirror neurons.
Mirror neurons represent a distinctive class of neurons that discharge both when an individual executes a motor act and when he observes another individual performing the same or a similar motor act.”
They are responsible for action and intention understanding of both the self and others. They are also linked with self-awareness. Those with mirror neurons that are not functioning properly are known to display autistic qualities.
Those who classify themselves as empaths have a heightened level of function, and less filters, in their mirror neurons.
“In empaths, the brain’s mirror neuron system — a specialized group of cells that are responsible for compassion — are hyperactive.”
– Dr. Orloff – assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of the book, The Empath’s Survival Guide
Quantum Entanglement & Empaths
Quantum entanglement is a quantum mechanical phenomenon in which the quantum states of two or more objects have to be described with reference to each other, even though the individual objects may be spatially separated.
This leads to correlations between observable physical properties of the systems.
Quantum entanglement studies have been done on 2 entangled particles. When the properties, such as the color or movement, of the object are affected, the other object updates the qualities within itself – with no physical stimulus at instanteneous speeds.
How do the quantum particles become entangled?
Entanglement occurs when the particles “know” each other by sharing an understanding of each other’s qualities.
Once the particles “know” each other, a state change in one will be reflected instantaneously in the other, no matter the distance or obstacles between them. That means you can change a quantum particle located on a beach in Los Angeles from red to blue and the entangled particle, located in a locked metal room in Paris, will also change from red to blue – instantly – only as a result of the state change of its entangled partner.
The principle of quantum entanglement is usually referred to as being unique to quantum science, but that is not the case. Entanglement occurs on a macro level as well.
Mirror neurons and quantum entanglement support the case that you can “feel” those you “know”, family, friends, loved ones, no matter the distance, instantly. This has been supported by cases of when you “know” something is wrong or happening with your loved one even though you are not physically present with them.
We’re all scientifically “empaths” although we have differing levels of awareness and development with this natural ability.
The Challenges Empaths Face
Having the ability to know and feel others can be like a super power sometimes, but other times it can feel like a curse.
Many empaths have the problem of “feeling” others too deeply to the point that it affects their daily lives. It can be draining or even handicapping if not properly understood and managed. This can lead to social anxiety, burnout, conflicting feelings, physical ailments, and confusion.
People who work with energy are aware of this ability and practice and refine it to do psychic and healing work.
Although pretty much all people employ this ability to varying degrees of proficiency when doing counseling, coaching, consulting, management, service, hospitality, and any people-facing work, learning the fundamentals of working with this energy can save you a lot of trouble and pain.
When you feel others, you won’t be bothered by the happiness and joy that you feel. In fact, you usually won’t even question whether this is your energy and emotion.
However, when you feel sadness and anger for “no reason”, it starts to get really disruptive. Some empaths will share the energy of others to the point where they take on the “undesirable” emotion. The other person will feel better while they will feel the undesirable emotion. Yeah, it sucks.
What’s Awesome About Being An Empath?
Although there are many challenges related to “taking on other people’s stuff” being an empath does actually give you some awesome power. An increased sense of intuition, compassion, creativity and a deeper sense of connection with others.
You can read people like books. To the point of practically reading their minds, or even reading them at a glance -Their eyes, their energy. You can better understand others and have a clear advantage in emotional intelligence. As long as you know how to regulate from your end.
You can feel into the energy of places, make decisions with an extra level of intuitive information, foresee future events, and do powerful energy work.
What Can An Empath Do To “Not Take On Other People’s Stuff”?
Some empaths go to an energy worker to help them “turn off” the ability, which tunes it down to a more manageable level.
The main tip I hear for empaths to employ is to “shield”. The practice of “shielding” involves creating a wall, bubble or 360-degree shield of energy around them. Especially around people. This has a decent amount of efficacy, but is not ideal. It’s also unnatural.
Remember – when increasing your proficiency and understanding of biological laws – follow nature. Nature flows, it doesn’t operate in a bubble by itself. It is an ecosystem.
Shielding is unnatural and moderately effective.
So am I suggesting not to shield from energies that are potentially debilitating and definately sucky?
Yep, that’s right!
Why, you ask?
Because I have something better for you.
My Story of Shielding Energy
I have been working with energy for decades. When I first became aware of my empath ability, it was usually terrible. I would feel everyone else’s pain and anger and I didn’t know that it was even happening.
I would just start feeling strong negative energy for no apparent reason and was completely blindsided. As I began to learn about energy, I was advised to “shield”.
For all of you who are new to “shielding” it’s an energetic technique where you use your mental intention to create an energetic field that separates you from others and their “undesirable” energies. You can create a light bubble, a fire field, a crystal wall, a blue space suit – whatever you feel like – and use it to keep you from taking on those energies from others.
From the very beginning the idea of shielding felt wrong to me. It was brash and rudimentary. Like painting with a handful of leaves instead of a paintbush. Hey, that’s the only metaphor that I could come up with, haha.
I spent years not shielding, and dealing with it, and shielding and feeling the “wrongness” and limitation of it. It kind of worked, but also felt obstructive and left me feeling disconnected. I didn’t feel like I was flowing with my environment. I was protecting from it. That’s fear-based. That’s bs. There had to be something better.
The Best Technique for Empaths that I’ve Found – Way Better than Shielding
The ability to do energy work including being an empath, healing and other psychic work has always been strong in me, and over the course of my life I’ve developed, deeped and fine tuned it. My capacity to understand and hold energy has grown profoundly. There was a time I was really getting waves of what I called, “interference”. Other people’s and places undesirable energies, other interdimensional beings & energies interfering.
Through some of the worst of it, I worked with a very powerful healer named Maria, who shared with me an intriguing proposition.
“Want to know how to stick your hand in the mud and come up clean?”
What she meant was going to places with undesirable energies or healing other people’s shit, without getting any undesirable energy on you.
To which I said,
“God, yes, please how??”
Simply said.
Be Love.
That’s it.
The frequency of love is like water to the oil of undesirable energies. It simply cannot stick, attach or be present. In fact, it overwhelms and transmutes lower frequency vibrations such as anger and fear. Without the bullshit of shielding.
This isn’t just “wooo”, it’s science, based on wave form frequencies.
It follows scientific natural law. And decision making based on love, not fear. This allows you to show up in your power, as one of the most powerful known versions of yourself – LOVE.
How to Perform the Practice in 3 Easy Steps
Relax your body and begin to visualize breathing through your heart.
Begin to feel the emotion of love and feel the energy of love expand as far as you want. Over time you will develop your preference.
Visualize this energy as light, liquid gold, whatever you want.
The big difference with with technique and shielding is that there is no barrier, no wall. It is more like an energetic overflow that causes the disintegration or transmutation of any undesirable energy fields. They simply cannot exist in this energy.
Benefits of Empath Love Overflow Practice
I’m just going to call it Empath Love Overflow Practice because I have no other name for it.
It pretty much works like a sun except it’s the anahilalation of energy with love, not fire. Anything that gets close to it ceases to exist as it was or turns away by natural law.
This practice helps with:
Healing Energy Work
Manifestation
Chronic Fatigue
Possession and Spiritual Disruption
Improves Your Relationships, Including Your Relationship With Self
Improves Your Emotions
Improves Every Element of your Life
Takes No Extra Time
No Shielding 😎
Connects You to Your Unlimited Source Energy, & Intuition
It’s pretty simple, although it requires focused attention.
If you’re having a tough day and simply don’t feel the energy of “love” that day you can always fall back on shielding or leave the area to go be alone and/or somewhere in nature.
But remember,
You are not disconnected from your environment. You are your environment. That is like disconnecting from the self. You are all the forces including the most powerful force, LOVE. You are as safe as you know you are.
You are ALL.
When you CHOOSE LOVE it feels better.
There are many people who are strong in their energetic abilities and don’t necessarily want to practice healing & energy arts. They just want to be proficient human beings.
If you need any help at all or want to fine-tune to an advanced level, reach out to me jacqueline@consciousnessliberty.com. Happy to help with this and other energetic abilities you want to fine-tune.
I love helping skeptical, energetically aware people navigate and leverage their abilities and use these (and many more) tools to understand and integrate their energetic awareness and turn their “curse” into a “superpower”.
Being an aware empath can suck, but this is a game-changer. You got this!
Let me know in the comments how it works for you! Seriously. Because it changed my life – and I hope it does for you too!
Have you noticed that your best work and best ideas come to you when you’re inspired, when you’re flowing?
The world is changing. The way we used to think and work as a collective is shifting.
Industries are disrupting the status quo. What was once the taxi industry has been disrupted by companies like Uber. The hotel industry has been disrupted by Airbnb and hard work has been disrupted by smart work – by hacking. Biohacking, lifehacking, flow hacking and more.
“Hard work, forcing and pushing are no longer working like they used to. We are evolving into a smarter way of working by better understanding and leveraging our biology to compliment our outcomes.”
– Consciousness Liberty
Today’s “work” is about flow, inspiration and alignment. Being drawn, compelled, CALLED to create. As we experience the massively productive, fun and brilliant work created in flow and inspiration, we also want to learn to harness its replication.
What is meant by “Hard Work”?
Let’s get the semantics out of the way to avoid confusion. What is “hard work”? First of all, it has nothing to do with the TYPE of work you do. Dirty work vs. clean work, white or blue collar, college degree or not, business, hobby or sport.
Mike Rowe, “Dirty Jobs” show host, equates “hard work” to trades and dirty jobs, which can be very lucrative, fulfilling and fun. Props to Mike for shining the spotlight on trades work and crushing the stigma that one type of work is better than another! “Getting your hands dirty” work is NOT what we’re talking about here.
It’s about the WAY you work, the WHY of your work and the VALUE that it adds to your lives and others.
On the same page? Great, read on.
Smart work asks, how optimal is it? Is it aligned with your main objective? Is it serving you or making you stressed and ill? Are you able to enjoy your work and your life or are you grinding to buy things you don’t even have time to use or enjoy?
Smart work is NOT coasting. It’s not working halfheartedly.
Smart work is courageous, persistent, resilient, resourceful, passionate, focused, results-driven.
Smart work is NOT HARD, not forceful, not burning out, not unsustainable, not illness provoking.
Got it?
Good!
What is Flow?
Flow is the holy grail of working smart.
“Researchers describe flow as a unique state of concentration in which action seems to be effortless. Whether painting, writing, planning, scheming, inventing or running a 10K, you feel alert, unself-conscious and totally absorbed in the present moment.
Flow is a state entered when you are performing at your peak or stretching beyond former limits. Emotions are positive and energized, yet your attention is so focused on the task at hand that you may not be aware of feelings at all except in retrospect. Everything but the task is forgotten—time, surroundings, even yourself. Awareness and action become one.”
So, what’s the key to working smart? How do we turn working hard into working smart?
Here are some techniques to help you work smarter. Green words highlight specific biohacking tips.
1. Have a purpose.
Identify your WHY, goal, or intention to achieve something worthwhile. It doesn’t need to be a big deal, just something worth your time. Your brain is a meaning-making machine and having a purpose gives you meaning, which shapes identity. Identity precedes your actions.
How do you find that purpose? Listen to your heart, your higher self and intuition. Of course, you can use your intuition at any point in the process. Learning to follow your heart instead of your head saves you tons of hard work for something you never really wanted in the first place.
2. Step fully into now.
Ground, be aware, mindful, present. Get fully into your body. You’ll know your there when you experience clarity. Try bringing your attention and awareness right behind your eyes. Increase your sensory attention. Focus on how things taste, smell, feel, etc.
This brings you back into your place of power, where you can have more influence on the world around you. Your presence is better and people will listen to your ideas and respect the energy you bring to the moment.
Mindfulness and being in present awareness increases mental flexibility and the ability to regulate behavior, avoid knee jerk reactions, resist distractions and improves decision making.
Grounding practice can help you be in the moment, decrease stress, decrease inflammation and increase blood flow.
“Neuroscientists have also shown that practicing mindfulness affects brain areas related to perception, body awareness, pain tolerance, emotion regulation, introspection, complex thinking, and sense of self.”
Ensure you have aligned your environment and yourself for the task at hand. Set up a workspace, a designated time or day, and/or a trigger. Think of your mindset when you’re in bed, when your in your office or workspace, when you’re at the gym, a nice restaurant, or at a concert. All different energies.
Try having a fine dining experience in a construction site or a gym. Not as conducive as a low-lit, beautiful atmosphere, huh?
You get the idea. If you want a detailed checklist, you can find it here.
4. Get inspired.
Music is one of the biggest ways I’ve found personally to quickly and effectively shift mood. At a close second are exercise and movement. When you move and flow the energy in your body, the thoughts in your body also flow and great ideas start pouring in.
Unexpected bonuses to shift energy include showering, when you’re about to fall asleep, and in relaxed states.
In the book, Stealing Fire, Steven Kotler wrote about the altered-states economy. What we do and consume to shift our states,
Here’s a breakdown for how to shift your states:
Drugs – pain drugs, coffee, alcohol, MDMA.
Media – video games, virtual reality, music, porn.
Personal growth – life coaches, self-help, business coaches, retreats.
Get into the habit or carrying a little pen and paper or use your phone’s notes to capture those inspiring ideas in the moment.
No, you won’t remember them later, so write them down. Especially the ones you have before drifting off to sleep.
5. Move your body.
This deserves its own category because there is more to moving your body than exercise. Use your body to change your energy flow. You can use exercise, body language, posture, stretching and movement to change your chemistry, emotions and consequently your thoughts.
If you are engaged in high-energy exercise, your brain physicaly cannot process depression and high-intensity activity at the same time.
Posturing, or getting into the posture of, what you want to achieve also triggers your brain to become that which you are posturing in.
A study published in the journal Psychological Science in 2010, concluded that when people sat or stood in expansive poses for just one minute, they felt more powerful and in charge, and their body chemicals changed. They had more testosterone and less cortisol, the stress hormone.
“By simply changing physical posture, an individual prepares his or her mental and physiological systems to endure difficult and stressful situations.”
– Psychological Science, journal, 2010
“Just sitting up straight, a simple power pose, may increase self-confidence.”
– European Journal of Social Psychology, 2009
Some research shows that body posture also affects persistence when dealing with difficult tasks. This also works with subtle movements such as facial expressions.
Having good posture contributes to keep the body in good health, free from pain, and digesting properly.
6. Leverage NLP & habitry by using triggers.
There is an entire part of your brain that’s wired to function based on habit.
Habits are based on triggers. Time, place song, sensation, words, scents are all triggers. Use these to your advantage.
For example, if you want to instantly click into a mode, such as “workout mode” – set a trigger to shift the moment you step foot into the gym. The first time you do it, you’ll feel the resistance. Over time it will become automatic – like those secret trigger words for international assassin spies – aaaanyway – you know what I mean.
7. Get in flow.
Flow is the holy grail of working smart and takes inspiration to the next level. That is what is going to create states of flow, altered states and the kind of work when you are just crushing it and your on fire! Ideas and pouring in and your excited and completely immersed.
Biologically speaking, flow happens on the edge of alpha and theta, at around 8 Hz. When your brainwaves are in theta, your brain is open to “gamma spikes” the brainwave frequency that is associated with “Ah-ha” moments.
Want to know how your brain is in theta? Click here to learn more about the characteristics of a theta mindset.
Or, you can track your brainwaves with a Muse headset and a 3rd party app called, Mind Monitor. If you haven’t checked out Mind Monitor, I recommend it. It will show you your brain’s wavelength feedback in real-time so you can direct them.
One of the foremost authorities on flow, Steven Kotler, describes it as having the subjective characteristics, STER.
S: Selflessness – Perception of self disappears and you are absorbed in the process.
T: Timelessness -Prefrontal cortex deactivates and time dilates or contracts.
E: Effortlessness – Brain is connected,
R: Richness – Attention is strong in the present moment and pattern rec is amplified. Productivity and creativity increase.
How to get into flow:
Focus
Clear goals
Uninterrupted
The challenge/skills ratio is right. (See graph below)
Triggers
Passion /purpose
Risk – Drives focus, which drives flow.
Autonomy
Novelty
Complexity
Unpredictability
Deep embodiment
Immediate feedback
Creativity/ pattern recognition
– prototypr.io
Remember, flow is universal. It’s available to everyone at any time provided the right conditions are met.
8. Get real with yourself.
What do you value? What is your main objective? How are these activities getting you closer to your main objective? What is keeping you from your main objective?
Identify your limiting and conflicting beliefs. You’ll know what these are because you will feel conflicted or uneasy when you affirm your goal. This requires hard questions and hard choices, not hard work.
If you want some help identifying and breaking through limiting or conflicting beliefs get in touch with me, Jacqueline@consciousnessliberty.com. I help my clients overcome non-serving beliefs, blind spots and self-sabotage and find clarity and fulfillment. You can find out more here.
9. Optimize, delegate or eliminate what is keeping you from your goal.
Outsource what’s slowing you down and create a “do not do” list of things that waste your time. A big part of productivity, efficiency and working smart is not only what you do, but what you don’t do.
You can optimize your time by batching similar tasks, planning your day, (or week) ahead of time, prioritizing (top 1-3 goals for the day) and by assigning a time to each task.
10. Immerse yourself.
Once you’re present and inspired, begin to surround yourself with anything that promotes it. For example, create an environment that supports the activity, surround yourself with people that promote the activity and begin to read about listen to talk about anything that is related to the activity.
Conversely, stay away from the opposite of that. 😂 Nuff said.
11. Give it some time.
If you’re not fully inspired it may take some time to get into flow. Keep at it. Keep doing what you do, keep working at it and practicing the steps above. Soon you’ll be aligned and flowing. If it doesn’t happen perfectly the first time, do it again and again. It will become easier. Your biology is designed to take in what you repeat. Hack it wisely.
12. Focus on results, not actions.
One critical component to working smart is taking the time to reflect on what you are doing. Is this work getting you closer to your main dreams and goals, or are you “always busy” and going in circles?
What’s working? What’s not working?
Examine, adjust, retest, reflect.
Smart workers know that it’s about the quality of the output, not the quantity of input, that makes a difference.
Slow down to speed up my friend.
13. Schedule in your downtime.
If you think you can grind, power through and energy drink yourself to your goals, you’re working hard, not smart and you’re missing the big picture. There is a universal law of duality that we operate in as human beings. That which comes up, goes down.
Learn it, leverage it.
Understand the importance of rest and leverage that rest to recharge and come back stronger. Step away from work to enjoy doing nothing, reflection, partying, hanging out, whatever.
This creates energetic contrast which is the natural rhythm or pedulumn swing of life.
Speaking of enjoyment…
14. Enjoy yourself & the journey.
Embrace the journey. Growth can be painful, so when you are creating your “work smart” plan, learning, or expanding your skillset your brain will attempt to fight you, distract you and stop you to “keep you safe”. So many people think the reward and pleasure is in the destination, but if you learn to train your brain to enjoy the journey, you will be happier and more productive along the way. It’s called cultivating a growth mindset.
Remember that when you are creating something it takes energy input, and you want to input the right energy of passion, enjoyment and inspiration. Not stress, pressure and force.
Therefore…
Remember, use power not force. Work smart.
There is a current of lifeforce energy present in all things. When bringing something into being, you don’t want to go up against the current. Understand this flow in life and in yourself and leverage it.
Use the techniques above, enjoy your time, grow as a person, contribute to others. The energy present when you create is what you infuse into your creations.
Here’s to working smart. To have a blast while growing as a person. Developing your unique gifts and contributing to others.
What is the biggest roadblock that stops people from accomplishing their dreams?
You guessed it.
FEAR
Fear of what?
Failure, success, pressure, criticism, being in the spotlight, having to perform, perfectionism, procrastination, expectations, etc.
Whose criticism, whose expectations, perform for who?
For them.
Who’s them?
It comes down to how others will see you, judge you and whether or not they will like you.
If you’ve come across this fear of “what they will say” before, you’ve probably heard people say, “Who exactly is THEY?” “Who cares what they say.” “You be yourself and keep moving forward.”
Easy right?
Why don’t we just ignore “what they say” and live our spectacular dreams and goals?
Well, as it turns out, it’s not that easy.
This fear of the unknown “they”, is actually a real, visceral, legitimate, biological, hardwired fear.
It’s a fear or rejection, which ultimately translates to
A fear of death.
We are social creatures. Acceptance, belonging and social interaction are encoded into our survival systems. Not being liked means being rejected.
Rejection means no job, no business, no community, no support. Leaving you disconnected, in danger, and vulnerable to attack or starvation.
Ever see those nature shows when one of the antelopes gets separated from the rest? That’s the one that ultimately gets singled out by lions, pummeled and eaten alive.
What seems like an insignificant “They might not like me” excuse, is actually a deeply encoded biological survival mechanism. And uh, yeah good luck getting around that.
So now what?
Fortunately, there is a way to transcend your biological survival mechanisms.
We are human beings, AND we are also divine beings.
By stepping into your divinity, you are able to transcend the crippling grip of hardwired survivalism.
And how do you transcend into this exactly?
By using one of the most powerful energies in existence.
Love
Energetically speaking, you negate the vibration of fear with the vibration of love. This is known as energetic alchemy, leveraging the Law of Duality.
Here’s how:
Using awareness and concentrated mental direction to short-circuit your fear. “This is not an actual threat to me.” “I am safe.” “This is safe.” “Everything will be ok.”
Meditating
Being in the moment
Feeling love in your heart for yourself and for others (Metta Meditation)
Becoming inspired through movement, music, exercise, art, books, videos
Meditation has the cumulative effect of bringing you into this divine awareness so that you can see situations from this perspective regularly.
Use these in combination. Use your awareness to realize you are afraid, (instead of just procrastinating), relax, center, come into the moment and recognize that you are safe. Tell yourself that you are safe, that you are ok. Put on some inspirational content and move forward.
The self is in constant battle within the fragile, dualistic human experience.
As spirits:
We knowunity consciousness and live in duality consciousness.
We know ourselves and have forgotten upon coming into this life. We are seeking to KNOW once again. We are seeking to know ourselves.
We are beings of unity that find ourselves with an ego – a new sense of identity – apart from others.
This new reality of duality, ego, and knowledge creates a playground for the supposed separation between good and bad, between light and darkness.
Welcome to Your Shadow Side
This the side of all of us that society turns a blind eye to, that we deny we have, that we call ugly. It’s what we hide from others – and even from ourselves.
You will discover more about your shadow side, why it’s so important to your health and authenticity, and learn a step-by-step guide to doing shadow work to find wholeness, healing, power and freedom.
What is the Shadow Side?
According to Carl Jung, the shadow side or shadow self includes all the elements of your unconscious personality.
Usually, they are the least desirable elements that society rejects or judges as bad. The sides we don’t like and we don’t want to admit, even to ourselves. Our instincts, shortcomings and weaknesses. The sides that don’t feel good.
Examples include pain, fear, jealousy, insecurity, rage, failure, lack of control, mediocracy, laziness, depression, death, victimhood, vengeance, selfishness, brokenness, negativity, unserving beliefs, being stuck, not knowing, giving up, ugliness, stupidity, sadness and loneliness.
Can be tough to read, right? It doesn’t feel good. Confidence feels good, love feels good, gratitude feels good, security feels good. These are our lighter traits.
Although our shadows may seem ugly and undesirable, they are an integral part of YOU and crucial for your development, health and wholeness as a human being.
Why?
Understanding Enantiodromia & Duality
The principle of enantiodromia was introduced into the West by Carl Jung. It is “The emergence of the unconscious opposite in the course of time.” Otherwise known as something “running its course” and transforming into its opposite, especially when polarized.
It comes from the words enantios – opposite and dromos – running course.
For example, if you were raised with strict moral guidelines of not drinking, not staying out late and not partying, there is a good chance that later in life the shadow side of these so-called “good” traits emerges in the form of intense partying, drinking and staying out late. Most of us have seen or experienced this occurrence in ourselves or our peers.
Heraclitus, who originally coined the term, “enantiodromia” explains, “Cold things warm, warm things cool, wet things dry and parched things get wet.”
This concept is also known in Chinese religion as Yin-Yang.
Seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.
Our biological survival system is programmed to stay away from pain in order to salvage the biological being. Any pain sends a message of threat to the system that must be relieved asap to ensure it’s safety, health and survival. And these shadows are painful! We instinctively run away from them at all costs.
Society’s collective rejection of shadow traits also alludes to the rejection of the being that contains these traits.
Deep inside we view society’s rejection as posing a risk of death. Without our tribe, we are not supported, not cared for, weak and vulnerable. We may as well be on deaths’ door. That is why belonging is such an important trait. That is why we suppress these shadow traits at our own painful expense.
And it’s painful because you are denying yourself. You’re portraying a one-sided image of goodness and the fragmentation and inauthenticity is exhausting, unrealistic and unsustainable.
Why Do Shadow Work?
Shadow work is brutal.
It’s painful, uncomfortable and an embarrassing shock to the system, but the rewards of going into your darkest self hold a treasure more precious to your life than you can even imagine.
Through shadow work you can find wholeness and freedom, discover deeper love and compassion for yourself and others, and make peace with yourself and all those around you.
Through shadow work you can put an end the constant battle with self and find powerful, transformative healing.
Your capacity for being truly alive increases and your inner and outer worlds are dramatically changed.
It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life.
Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.
The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you are looking for. The damned thing in the cave that was so dreaded has become the center.
You will find the jewel, and it draws you off.
In loving the spiritual, you cannot despise the earthly.
The purpose of the journey is compassion.
– Joseph Campbell
This advice applies across the board in life, and it hits home in the case of shadow work. It is the work of unity, of liberation of unconditional love and authenticity.
Getting Started with Shadow Work
Before you start something of significance, you want to prepare the landscape, gather the materials and commit to “seeing it through”.
This is akin to remodeling your house, or going through surgery, except it’s your own psyche. You don’t leave that shit half-finished. Any harsh weather, challenge or intruder can wreak havoc and do some serious damage.
Before you start, know that there is no easy way of doing shadow work. AND that is not to be confused with simple. You can do simple shadow work, but it won’t be easy. If you don’t feel into the gut-wrenching, humbling depths, you’re not doing it right.
If it’s easy for you, you’re not doing it right.
Ok ready? Let’s get started.
How to Practice Shadow Work
At various points in your spiritual journey, you will assimilate shadow work differently based on your experiences, beliefs and understandings.
Spiritual Virtues of Shadow Work
Shadow work focuses on compassion, non-judgmentalism, self-love and unconditional love. It focuses on seeing through the eyes of divinity – of wholeness.
A Foundational Understanding of Natural Law
The world is perfect. It’s a mess. It has always been a mess.
-Joseph Campbell
Regardless of what you believe, you cannot deny natural law happening within and all around you at all times.
We can see natural law in action when we breathe, we cry, we laugh, we throw up, we fuck up, we love, we hurt, we fear, we resist. It’s natural, it’s who we are. This understanding of natural law is the beginning of shadow work.
As you see a baby drool, poop, cry, scream and talk jibberish you sympahize with it’s level of development. You don’t judge it harshly.
“Stupid baby can’t even speak properly or use a toilet.”
No.
You realize it’s a baby. And that’s ok.
Similarly, as adults, we throw fits, we scream, we try and fail, we get sick and throw up – we’re humans. And that’s ok.
Following?
Yep good.
This is nature. It’s observed. It’s not learned. It’s not taught in books. It’s raw and pure and true. It’s one of the reasons shadow work is so powerful.
The Healing Process of Shadow Work
Identify -> Accept ->Love -> Embody -> Integrate
The ones in bold above must be completed in 1 sitting. The rest is a lifelong process. This process repeats throughout your life.
IDENTIFY: The first step is to identify your shadows as many of them are unconscious elements of your personality. You will notice then by your triggers, by your disdain, by your rejection of them.
ACCEPT: The next step is to accept your own shadows. To own them. To acknowledge their purpose and value.
LOVE: You then bring love and compassion to your shadows. You bring them to light and welcome them back into you.
EMBODY: As you now own and love your shadows you can consciously embody them and leverage them for your personal growth and development.
INTEGRATE: Begin to see the value of your shadows in every area of your life to help expand your virtues and evolve.
How to Do Shadow Work
1. Create Space for the Work
Dedicate an evening to yourself to fully immerse yourself into the process. Grab a pen and paper, journal or your computer to write down your thoughts. Create a safe space alone. This can be in your room with candles, incense, blankets, tea, water.
Make it cozy because the rest of the process is challenging.
Sit for a few moments and think of all the things you don’t like about yourself, all the things you reject.
Feel into it deeply.
2. IDENTIFY: How to Spot Your Shadows & Shadow Archetypes
Watch for emotional reactions such as irritation, disgust, anger, fear, sadness.
Watch for body reactions. Heat in body, shaking, chills, pain, uncomfortableness.
Watch for psychological projections of your shadow. For example, traits in others that trigger your reactions are mirrors to your unconscious shadows.
Engage in inner dialogue to bring the unconscious to light.
BONUS: Get to know the shadow archetypes. Some examples include:
Archetype: King
Active Shadow: Tyrant
Passive Shadow: Weakling
Archetype: Warrior
Active shadow: Sadist
Passive Shadow: Masochist
Archetype: Magician
Active shadow: The Detached Manipulator
Passive Shadow: the Innocent one
Archetype: Lover
Active Shadow: The addicted lover
Passive Shadow: The impotent lover
You can choose to research all 12 archetype’s shadow sides if you’d like.
2. IDENTIFY: Bringing the Subconscious to the Surface
This is a journaling shadow work exercise. Begin by writing down a list of things about yourself that you don’t like. Write the things in others that you don’t like. If you get stuck, write the things in yourself and others that you like. Write down your undesirable beliefs as well. (Write down your most powerful “positive” beliefs if you choose.)
“I’m too fat, too stupid, too naive. I don’t like my ears. I’m weak. This person is rude. I’m dependable and people take advantage of that…” etc.
Understanding the Law of Duality
Realize that:
Shadows present in others = Shadows present in yourself
Your most desirable traits contain their shadow side as well. This is the law of duality. It is a natural law of the human experience.
To the degree that you condemn others and find evil in others. You are to that degree unconscious of the same thing in yourself or at least of the potentiality of it.
-Alan Watts
Free write and feel the emotions that arise.
Do not censor or judge your writing. Get it all out.
It will start with the obvious from your conscious mind, then continue from the depths of your emotions, from your subconscious.
Write until you can no longer write. This could take hours and usually the entire evening. You will be surprised by what comes out. When I did the work I had pages of things, some of which were incredibly surprising and “brand new” to my awareness.
This shadow work journaling technique branches off into 2 techniques.
Writing down your (perfect 😉) “undesirable traits”
Free-writing into rabbit holes of the subconscious through powerful questioning.
I will guide you through the rabbit hole (#2) first because this will happen spontaneously, then fizzle out and you can go back to technique 1, writing “undesirable traits” again.
3. IDENTIFY: Digging Deeper into the Rabbithole of the Subconscious through Questions (Technique 2)
Continue writing. Write your stream of consciousness thoughts that come up. Question them with “why” to dig deeper. Ask why until you “feel complete” with that stream of consciousness.
For example:
“What am I feeling?”
“Why am I feeling this?”
“Why?”
“Why?”, “Why?”, Why?”
You get the idea.
One very effective technique is to begin having a coversation in writing with yourself.
For example:
“What am I afraid of?” “Trying.”
“What is it that scares you?” “Failing. Of being even higher and falling further.”
“Why does falling scare you?” “Because it will hurt.”
“Does it hurt now?” “Yes, it will hurt either way.”
“Well it hurts either way, and it hurts for sure.” Why don’t you try and you can do something about the hurt?” “The worst that can happen is you end up where you are already. In pain”.
Etc.
Continue writing all of your “undesirable” traits, mentally, emotionally, physically. All of them.
4. IDENTIFY: Categorize
Ok now, let’s sort through the data.
Identify your top shadows by giving them a rating between 1-10 in terms of how strong, affective, and present they are in your life.
Optional: Categorize them in various sections to find the weaker sections in your life. Character, health, love, body, mind, emotions, etc. You can choose your own categories as you wish.
5. ACCEPT: Processing Your Shadows
It goes without saying that this process will uncover a spectrum of emotions as undesirable as the traits you wrote down. Allow yourself time to cry, to judge, to feel into these discoveries.
Even when things come up about others, see it as a mirror to yourself.
“I am mad because I am ignored.” “Where do I ignore myself?”
Now begin to write down any positive aspects of your shadow traits. Start with the strongest ones you rated at the top of your list. Take your time.
TIP: Write down the positive aspects of your shadow traits as though you are talking to a friend. We tend to be WAY LESS JUDGEMENTAL of other’s perceived “flaws & mistakes” than our own.
Examples:
“I am shaking.” – It’s a sign that you are identifying and processing trauma and shadows.
“I am flawed/broken” – You are stronger as a result. You can continue to overcome. Neuroplasticity is real and new wiring is possible.
“I am anxious” – This is a good sign of “what to work on” and a signal to return to the present.
“I am not smart enough” – No one is. Don’t worry. You’re smart. Smart enough. And you are learning.
“I’m fat” – You have a choice. Workout, eat healthy.
“Eventually, something bad will happen” – You create in each moment. If you create something “bad” it is the contrast that is serving your growth and conscious evolution for improvement.
Etc.
See the purpose of the darkness. In a world of duality, the shadow is the fuel, the contrast, the mirror for your improvement and growth. You get the idea.
6. LOVE: Your Shadows
Just as you feel compassion for a baby’s journey, or empathize with someone else’s pain because you’ve been there – empathize with the perfect, “in process” version of you.
Bring love, understanding and compassion to your shadow traits. See them with the loving eyes of a patient mother or the non-judgmental eyes of God.
This step is crucial to complete in the same evening, as it fills the painful and raw areas of the psyche with love and acceptance. Danger: Do not skip this as you will have open wounds in which anything can trespass if you don’t fill them with love.
Keep in mind that bringing the energies of love and acceptance to your shadows does not mean that you have fully made peace with them all.
Just like sending love to someone you are still angry with, it may not dissolve all the anger at that moment. Sending love to your shadows does not mean that you fully accept and love them right now. It means you can see them through the eyes of love and compassion and send love to them.
You may need to do this work repeatedly until you have made peace with your shadows. Always send them loving energy regardless and accept where you are in the process. Remember that if you open a wound with shadow work, always finish by filling it with love and healing energy before closing your practice for that session.
7. EMBODY
Go about your life accepting those traits, realizing their purpose and bringing love to them. Leverage them to continually improve yourself.
Realize the distinction between identifying your shadows and identifying WITH your shadows. You are not your shadows, you are not your desirable traits. They are merely visitors. The YOU is the awareness – the consciousness – that chooses how to treat these visitors.
7. INTEGRATE
Ok, this part is actually fun. When you learn to love all of yourself, you gain great power and freedom.
You are more authentic, compassionate and brave as a result of feeling through the pain and knowing how to love the “undesirable”. You can bring that to other parts of your life. You can love other people when they show you their “ugly sides”. When they get angry. When they yell at you. You can see the gold hidden in the anger. The contrast for growth. The seeds of improvement.
Realize that you may be judged for your shadows as well as appreciated for your authenticity. Release the survival mindset of “being accepted” and know that you can thrive when placing your faith in your own truth (in God, in source, in yourself).
What a sigh of relief and healing to begin to love ALL of yourself.
To allow yourself to beyourself.
To begin to know yourself and step fully into the light (conscious), by bringing your shadow with you. With gratitude to your shadow for showing you how to evolve your character, and create shining diamonds where there once was coal. Love the coal for it is the ingredient that makes your strongest and brightest diamonds. Embrace this continuous process in your ever-evolving perfection.
This is what I heard for years from many New Age, spiritual people. And I knew right away that something wasn’t right about it.
During my strongest times of growth, all I could think of is “Oh, fuck off!” “That is not how it works.”
We are not human to brush an entire side of ourselves under the carpet, plug our ears and hum, “It’s ok, it’s ok, good vibes only”.
That kind of attitude creates lopsidedness, friction and unhealthy expectations. It doesn’t work and will amplify whatever you are trying to get away from. It creates fragmentation, known as the shadow self in Jungian psychology.
The shadow self The ‘shadow’ is the side of your personality that contains all the parts of yourself that you don’t want to admit to having.
It creates dishonesty with oneself and nature plus an unrealistic view of our humanity.
And in this article, we’ll explore why the New Age craze didn’t work, what does work and why.
Let’s get started.
Why do we seek “good vibes only”?
The concept of “good vibes only” is idealistic and well-intentioned. It’s based on Unity or God-consciousness.
A source of love and pure goodness. Because that is where we come from, it’s in our nature to seek it or return to it.
Understanding Duality Consciousness
Human Consciousness is dual. We perceive separateness in our experience in order to get it far enough away from us that we can “see” it.
Alan Watts refers to the Godhead as Source and in order to know or see itself, it must create an illusion of separation.
This is duality consciousness.
Why Embrace Your Darkness?
In order to embrace the fullness of your humanity, you want to be at peace with all of who, all of your traits, emotions, thoughts, events and environments.
It doesn’t mean you have to embrace all of life’s contrast – just accept. embrace the fullness of your humanity – not all circumstances. Some are meant for you to want to get away from, to hurt from, to learn from.
It’s the awareness behind your response that matters.
Non-judgemental awareness (the circle) encompasses all of these events and responses from a “distance”.
This is known as non-attachment in Buddhism. The ability to see from a higher perspective.
For example, I recently had an experience where I was feeling general anxiety and didn’t know where it was coming from. When I stopped and listened more closely, I realized that there was this deep fear inside me related to being an entrepreneur. The feeling of everything depending on you. The feeling of not having anything else to hold on to. The instability and responsibility of stepping out on your own.
I was able to sit with it and fully feel it. And believe me, it HUURRRT emotionally.
I felt deeply into it and cried. All the while I saw myself from this general sense of awareness “behind” the experience. I was watching myself go through this experience, thinking
“Oh great! Facing this, owning this, is the way through to the other side! Now that I see and feel it, I can overcome it!”
9 Reasons to Embrace Your Darkness
First off, shake all the negative connotations about the word, “darkness”. Realize that it has its purpose. Just as the day has night, light has darkness. It helps show the light more brightly through contrast in this dualistic human experience.
1. Shows You What You Want
Realize that so-called “not good vibes” within actually serve as a compass, as a contrast, and as signposts to help you to “know” yourself and to choose what you want.
Many people do not know what they want, but they know what they don’t want. Thank these opportunities for opening your eyes and helping you to choose better.
2. Clears Energy & Heals
Embracing your darkness helps you realize that to be sad, to be angry, to be scared – is human. It shows you that it’s ok, it’s natural and that it’s good.
What you resist, persists. What you make peace with is experienced, serves its purpose, runs it’s course and then subsides.
When you are no longer suppressing these sides of yourself, you feel a great weight lifted off your shoulders.
Otherwise you are expending lots of energy to pretend it doesn’t exist and it won’t go away. It will continue to build up and even create disease. (dis -ease – being ill at ease or not at ease.)
3. Creates Peace & Integrity
As you shine light on these sides of yourself, you will show up with more integrity and responsibility for who you are and own your actions and personality.
You are able to “come clean” and see the full picture. You take responsibility for who you are and choose who you want to be and actually make that happen instead of turning a blind eye to it.
When I was able to shine light on my fear and identify it, I was able to face it and go through it. As a result, I am at peace with my fear and am taking the necessary steps to understand it and resolve it. I no longer have random anxiety as I did before – which leads to the next point.
4. It Empowers You
When you can embrace all of yourself, your failures and shortcomings and own them, you begin to take back your power.
You realize that people can’t hurt you, that the way you view the situation hurts you. YOU can change things. You and your life are in YOUR hands and you are able to change it or keep it.
5. It Follows Natural Law
There is so much information out there and it can be a challenge to separate truth from what’s not true. An easy way to discover the “truth” of something is to watch nature.
Watch the flow of the days, the purpose of the seasons. They are symbols for the purpose of your darkness – and just as fire has the ability to warm, it has the power to burn. Just as anger has the power to spark action, it has the ability to destroy.
“Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.” – The Kybalion.
This means that on the other side of darkness is light, on the other side of failure is success and on the other side of sadness is joy. If you are experiencing sadness within yourself you will trust that it will pass and joy awaits you.
As is natural law.
The same is true of happiness.
If you are experiencing happiness, be grateful, for the pendulum will swing and you will have an unpleasant experience that creates more desire for expansion in your evolution.
6. Uplevels Your Mindset for Adversity, Your Capacity for Strength & Creates Growth
Challenging times and undesirable emotions are fertile soil on which you grow and develop as a person. You do not grow and learn but staying the same, but by reaching outside of your current limitations. And that is painful.
After experiencing this pain you come out stronger and more resilient, in mind, emotion and body.
Embracing the darkness of these growing pains helps you trust that there is light at the end of the dark tunnel and a reward for trying times. This mindset helps you overcome those painful times.
7. Helps You Be Grateful
Nothing like experiencing painful moments within yourself to help you appreciate the beautiful, desirable ones.
These moments help to ground you, to shape you, to humble you, to help you grow and evolve. Be grateful for them while you are experiencing them.
Remember to see them with non-judgemental awareness, which leads to the next point.
8. Highlights Judgementalism & Expands Love & Compassion
Whatever you don’t accept in yourself, you are likely to reject or criticize in the world around you. This creates a clear guide of where you are still judgemental and shows you where you have room for improvement.
Embracing your darkness or weakness helps you to understand and experience love and compassion. To understand and relate that having fear is ok. To love your mistakes and faults. To see yourself and everything else as GOD (love, source, the higher part of you) sees you.
9. Shows You How to Feel Alive
When you are able to embrace and make peace with your darkness you allow yourself to fully feel the spectrum of emotions, and to make peace with the full spectrum of your personality and body.
Notice that it’s human nature to have darkness.
It’s the reason why we like scary movies, thrillers and dramas.
It’s the reason we channel our expression with dark art, music and writing. There is a part of us that likes it – that embraces the spectrum – that needs to feel it.
As a society, we hide our dark fantasies, secrets, perversions, anger, fear, jealousy, profanity etc. We are encouraged to hiding darkness and weakness to the point of suppression, to the point of negation.
This only amplifies what is suppressed to unhealthy levels and creates guilt, shame, disassociation and loss of power, loss of energy and loss and integrity.
Just remember not to hide your darkness from yourself. It’s a natural part of you.
Accept this truth and let it heal you, free you, empower you and teach you.
When you embrace it you can express healthy levels of it, you can being to see the world through the eyes of unconditional love and realize (real – ize-To see, to make real, to bring about) the perfection within yourself and all that is around you.
If you want to go deeper into embracing ALL of yourself through shadow work, stay tuned to my post on how to do it!
If you feel compelled, share your experiences below. I’d like to hear your story. 🙂
If you’re a bit confused by what I mean here and a little bit distracted thinking about sex, let me explain.
Most people want to be successful. It is a natural instinct of humans to want to grow and achieve. To win. To conquer.
If you ask most people if they prefer encountering challenges, roadblocks, fear and obstacles to success or if they want an easy win to something they really, really want, most would say, “Gimme the easy win.”
For example, you have an idea for a business selling hats. (Yes, hats. Just stay with me here.)
Would you rather:
A. Have someone give you a successful and lucrative hat selling business where you’re time input is 10 hours a week and you make 5 times what you would need to live a comfortable life. A team of A-players, resources and logistics are already in place and flowing.
B. Start your hat selling business from scratch with no previous experience in the business and no contacts, processes or resources.
You’re passionate about the business in both scenarios. Which one would you choose?
It’s safe to say most people would easily choose A.
It seems to be the obvious choice or opportunity, safety and financial wealth while pursuing your interests and passions.
In small undertakings, many of us will choose the easy road.
Yet, when it comes to things that people deem as important, they choose the hard road to success over and over again.
As humans, we tend to place a higher sense of worthiness to larger goals. When it comes to life purpose, we want to select a goal that is worthy enough to dedicate our lives to. We want a partner that is worthy enough of marriage. A challenge that is worthy enough of effort.
Why We Overcomplicate Things
We come up with a brilliant idea then we think of extravagant ways to execute it. We make this goal “worthy” of our attention and hard work.
Let’s go back to selling hats.
Your initial idea about a hat store, becomes a place that customizes the hats based on a person’s interests and physical dimensions. Now you imagine stores all over the world that carry these specialized hats!
You’re super excited for the possibilities!
You continue to imagine the hell out of it, then get overwhelmed and push this great idea off – indefinitely.
The sheer magnitude of this step can be so daunting.
It’s time to build a bridge.
How?
Easy wins.
Easy wins are usually bypassed by the mind as not being interesting or worthy enough to accomplish.
Why Do We Like a Challenge?
A sense of satisfaction happens when we stretch or grow in order to accomplish something. How many times have you been proud that you accomplished getting dressed and driving to work in the morning? Or that you practice good hygiene? With some exceptions, good hygiene is a basic given in life that we do and don’t really get great life satisfaction out of it.
There are things in our life that are we are used to and will not cause a great amount of life satisfaction from their accomplishment.
Such as walking around the block. Not much to boast about. How about running your first marathon?
This is due to hedonic adaptation. Hedonic adaptation is the tendency to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major recent positive or negative events or life changes. This means you will start adapting to your accomplishments and they no longer cause the pleasure or satisfaction that they used to.
The body also gets used to strength and resistance training. This is known as progressive resistance – where overloading the muscles is constantly increased to build muscle and strength. What was once “heavy” is now “normal”.
Point is, the human being is designed to constantly strive and grow to “succeed”.
…[E]xercise is a wonderful example, where there’s something so satisfactory about the pain we get sometimes from trying to accomplish something, training for a marathon. And if it was effortless, it was painless, I don’t think we would get the same pleasure from it. I think that it illustrates that one critical ingredient here is control. So when it comes to pain, we could experience all sorts of pain – spicy foods, training for a marathon, a horror movie – but it’s critical that we control the intensity of the pain. Pain is never pleasurable when it’s out of your hands, when someone else is inflicting it. We are not wired up to enjoy pain under those circumstances.
Because of the effort and personal growth that is required to accomplish this task, we assign more worth and satisfaction to its accomplishment.
In Earl Nightingale’s seminal classic, The Strangest Secret he defines success as ‘”The gradual realization of a worthy goal.“
What is worthy?
A measure of value or worth is compared to demand, supply and relativity of the environment. The ratio of a thing as compared to its environment. The importance, usefulness, worth of a thing to the one measuring the value.
The more we assign value or worth to the goal, the more we think we need to work for, suffer for or train for to accomplish it. That struggle and sacrifice increase its worthiness. That struggle and sacrifice is what we get satisfaction from and what we associate success with.
So Why the Easy Win?
Human biology is made to adapt and respond to demands that are placed upon it. The stronger the demand, the stronger the response. It evolves and grows based on the frequency and intensity of use.
A big risk successfully executed creates a BIG PLEASURE response.
A small risk successfully executed creates a small pleasure response.
A big risk failed creates a BIG PAIN response.
A small risk failed creates a small pain response.
Once a big pain response occurs, the brain creates an increase in resistance to executing the same (or similar) challenging element again. The more failure, the more it reinforces its resistance to it.
The Easy Win:
1. Builds Self-Confidence
The easy win creates the reinforcing idea in the brain of accomplishment.
It creates baby steps to building self-confidence. Self-satisfaction. Self-belief. The feasibility of success improves.
2. Creates A Dopamine Release
Dopamine is released when you receive a reward through food, success or otherwise. The dopamine release helps with reinforcement of the activity that produced the feel-good dopamine release. The dopamine release also helps the brain focus, in order to attain more of what caused the previous dopamine release.
So, now you’re starting to associate pleasure with the achievement of your goals. You’re getting used to accomplish your goals and your biology is supporting pleasure and focus.
3. Allows For Testing
When you are taking smaller steps there is less consequence in testing, pivoting, and improving. You have more opportunities for testing without devastating consequences.
4. Leverages the Principle of Progressive Resistance & Hedonic Adaptation
Through the easy win you begin to familiarize yourself with your “big worthy goal” one step at a time, until it feels like it’s possible.
A series of easy wins build a bridge to BIG dreams. Something that seemed so far away before, now feels like it could happen.
5. Builds Supportive Habits
You get used to executing the idea. You build a routine and habits around it.
You can build upon it. Brick by brick.
To Sum Up
Leveraging the easy win can sometimes feel like it’s “beneath you” or not worthy enough of your time.
However, it’s a calculated and streamlined way to grow as a person, to reach our goals one step at a time, to stretch and grow while building confidence and to feel successful and fulfilled.
Share your experience with incorporating the “easy win” into your success strategy below!
This means we make sense of our world by comparing one thing to another. In order to “know” one thing as a human, you must “know” its other side.
For example, most people perceive hot and cold two opposite things. They are actually the same thing. The same spectrum. 2 sides of the same coin.
The “coin” is the spectrum.
Although they are on the same line, they are on different sides of the spectrum, which is why we perceive them as opposites.
This law is known as Principle IV: The Principle of Polarity
“Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”
– The Kybalion
This principle embodies the truth that everything is dual, polar and has an opposite. We can know something by comparing it to something else. These “opposites” are varying degrees of the same thing, located on the same scale, on the same line.
In human existence, what you judge as being opposites are actually variations of the same thing.
So in order to “know” one, or to “get closer” to one, you “know the other”. That contrast is what allows you to “see” it.
You cannot know one without knowing the other.
This is Universal Law as explained in the Hermetic text, the Kybalion.
and this law operates in dualistic consciousness – A.K.A human existence.
NOTE: Not all consciousness states are dualistic. Within unity consciousness, there is no good and bad, no hot and cold, no there or here, no right now or later.
They ARE.
And many times, they ARE BOTH – and NEITHER.
Ok, back to the dualistic human experience.
So here’s where it gets awesome because it’s how you get everything you want.
It works like this:
To get something you give it away.
To take control you give up control.
To know what you want you must know what you don’t want.
To gain freedom you must discipline yourself
Can’t I just get the thing I want, instead of looking for it’s opposite?
Naturally, if you want something you just go and get it.
But for all the things that you believe are harder to attain or you do not “know” (a.k.a have not experienced), you may find it hard to get for 2 reasons.
The law of attraction, a.k.a, Principle I: The Principle of Mentalism. You perpetually create a state of want which creates a state of want, which creates a state of want, causing more want to appear until you start to seriously doubt yourself in it’s attainment. #Manifesationtroubleshooting 😛
You will not be able to see it when you have it. You will not know it, feel it and thereby it goes undetected by you.
So that’s the human way of doing things…
Then there’s the energy alchemist way, using applied knowledge to your benefits to shortcut the process. That’s why we’re here my friend. 😉
Think of it as an operating manual to the multi universal being that you are.
Why Does it Work?
Once you understand that these “seemingly opposites” lie on the same line of a spectrum, the scale can be easily adjusted from, metaphorically speaking, left to right, right to left. Take hold and cold, and dull and sharp. You can slide from cold into hot, but you cannot slide from cold into sharp. That is a different line. You have the ability to transmute sadness to happiness. To go from scattered to focused.
The Law of Duality (Principle of Polarity) works hand in hand with all the universal principles, as shown with the law of attraction, Principle l: The principle of mentalism. It also works very closely with principle V.
Principle V: The Principle of Rhythm
“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates.”
-The Kybalion
What it is:
This principle embodies the truth that in everything there is manifested a measured motion, to and fro; a flow and inflow, backward and forward. It is a pendulum-like movement between the two poles which exist in accordance with the Principle of Polarity described a moment ago.
We see and understand the rise-and-fall behavior of these energy waves that permeate our existence.
So, how do I get to the polar opposite?
When you are going through the darkest of times you can realize that you are on the same spectrum of the best times of your life.
You can learn to navigate that line and experience it’s polar “opposite”.
The secret is not to force it. Let everything have it’s time, as it has it’s purpose and to rest in the certainty that “what goes up will go down” and vice-versa.
It’s Universal law and it’s science.
So check out the rise and fall of those waves. That same “up and down” works closely with Principle III: Th Principle of Vibration, which states that everything vibrates and everything is in constant motion.
Therefore, when you “know” something such as pain, that will naturally swing to pleasure because that swing is a natural physical law.
So take temperature as an example. If you are sort of warm and put your hands in hot water (not burning), you feel more warmth. But, if you hands are freezing and you put your hands in hot water your feel much more contrast, more extreme, more heat.
And it gets better…
If you “know” or experience an extreme polarity upon the same line, you can enhance your capacity for experience of the other pole.
You know the “hit rock bottom” just before you “make it big” scenario?
Or the people who have deep personal struggles expand their capacity for love and compassion.
How do I know what is on the same spectrum?
Some are obvious, cold and hot, black and white, some not so obvious at first glance – apathy and love, depression and motivation. (Btw, if you keep going towards the more extreme of motivation you get inspiration.)
– Consciousness Liberty
Many “not so obvious at first” spectrums I found through experience. Once you have the awareness to look out for them, you will find what is true for you. Truth is personal, not universal.
So now you know how to leverage the Law of Duality.
Be a giver, be a lover, be yourself. And get anything you want. 😉
“Hey Siri, create an event for 10:30 am on Wednesday.”
“You already have 2 events at that time, should I schedule it anyway?”
“Yes.”
Multi-tasking was a hot item in the early 2000’s. It was on everyone’s resume and a highly sought-after skill.
Around 2010, multi-tasking became a dirty word and a recipe for exhaustion, distraction, confusion and scattered performance.
Studies confirmed that switching between tasks resulting in having to take time to ramp-up time between them, causing lost time and more expended mental energy when “switching gears” between tasks.
The Desire for Focus
In a world full of pings, notifications and google on the go, focus has become the go-to aspiration and skillset.
The ability to hone in on the one thing, what matters most, simplification, cutting the noise and getting to the point.
The problem is, there are just too many things. Too many to-do’s, avenues, networks and frankly speaking – too much cool shit out there.
So how can we do it all?
How can we have it all?
Enter a whole new approach to muli-tasking. How to create time out of nowhere.
Strategic Multitasking
Your brain is not designed to write an email and hold a phone conversation at the same time.
But, your brain can do several things at once and, drumroll please, EVEN BETTER when you become strategic in your multitasking.
The idea behind strategic multi-tasking is to multiply your time by doing more than 1 thing at the same time, thus multiplying your time 2X or even 3X.
And It Gets Better
In addition to multiplying your time with multiple tasks, with strategic multi-tasking, you will be able to reduce the time it takes to perform each task – AND enhance the effectiveness of each task.
So, here’s the gameplan:
Double or triple your time by doing more than 1 thing at once.
Do the task better. Create better content, have better ideas, brainstorm better, etc.
Reduce the output time of each by increasing the effectiveness, leading to savingeven moretime.
But first, you need to know which tasks to group, and which not to. Some tasks are more effective when grouped, some tasks require sole focus and concentration.
It comes down to 2 things.
Which tasks require the attention part of your brain and which tasks can be done with the automation part of your brain.
Separating tasks by sensory type based on the 5 senses. Sight, touch, hearing, taste, smell. 2 tasks of the same sensory type cannot be matched.
Tasks are categorized like this:
Habit Tasks – Tasks that have been repeatedly performed and have transitioned from a focus part of your brain to an automated part of your brain. Ideal for combining.
Focus Tasks – Require attention, and usually require analytical ability. Cannot be combined.
Creative Tasks – Require attention and creativity. Can be combined.
Learning Tasks – A.k.a, learning tasks. Require attention. Can be combined.
Habit Tasks
Driving
Making the usual foods (Following a new recipe is learning, and will once again require focused attention)
General house cleaning, window cleaning, dusting, sweeping, tidying and organizing
Walking
Exercising
Listening to music
Showering
Creative Tasks
Creating
Designing
Brainstorming
Strategizing
Problem-solving
Writing
Focus Tasks
Budgeting
Data Analysis
Learning Tasks
Listening to Audiobooks & Podcasts
Reading
These are just samples. You can create and expand your own lists.
Here’s How You Do It / The Formula
TASK COMBINATIONS
HABIT TASK
CREATIVE TASK
FOCUS TASK
LEARNING TASK
HABIT TASK
YES
YES
NO
YES
CREATIVE TASK
YES
NO
NO
NO
FOCUS TASK
NO
NO
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LEARNING TASK
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Basically, you can ONLY combine Habit tasks with your choice of
habit tasks
creative tasks
learning tasks
Remember, you can only combine tasks if they involve different senses. Reading and cleaning the house both require vision in order to perform the task, but cleaning the house and listening to an audiobook is doable.
How Can Combining Tasks Help Me Do Them Better & Faster?
Boosts Creativity
Creative tasks are better done in combination for a variety of reasons. Starting with the fact that our society is predominantly left-brained centric, getting into our creative mode can be challenging and time-consuming.
Combining creative tasks with habit tasks:
Distracts your brain just enough to let your subconscious mind go to work and brilliant ideas “spark into your mind”
Relaxes your dorsolateral prefrontal cortex to let creativity flow
Gets your body moving to provide more oxygen and blood flow to let ideas flow.
Activities such as listening to music, showering and exercise release dopamine into the brain, which has been linked to creativity.
In a study done by Stanford University, walking boosts creative thinking by an average of 60 percent.
Strategic multi-tasking requires you to do some planning ahead, categorizing and grouping of tasks. In effect, you create a holistic picture of your tasks and awareness around them, and after them.
According to Parkinson’s Law, “Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”
So, the more work you’re aware of, the more efficient you are.
Bonus points for time-blocking.
Sample tasks that are good to do together
Clean the house + listen to podcasts
Drive + listen to podcasts
Workout + listen to music
Read a book + take notes
Walk + brainstorm + listen to music
Walk + brainstorm + have a conversation related to the topic
Learn something new + dusting the house
Shower + brainstorm
Cook + clean & organize the kitchen + catch up with loved ones on the phone
Protip: Smart Stacking
Smart stacking is all about 2 things, timing and location.
Planning your tasks around the amount of time they will take and where you will be. For example, starting your laundry and doing dishes, then doing computer work, so that your laundry is ready to dry and your dishes are dry and can be put away before you need to leave the house.
Sure beats doing computer work first on impulse and realizing that you need to leave the house while your laundry is still in the wash and has 20 mins left.
For those of you who hire someone to do all your non-lucrative tasks, here’s another example.
Prep an email the night before to send automatically in the morning while you’re in a meeting, so that you can get a response by the time the meeting’s done. Then, maximize the bit of “dead time” between your meeting time and lunch-time by referring to your list of quick tasks to knock out. Plan your deep work for after lunch. Then walk to lunch while brainstorming. Upon returning from lunch, jump into “deep work” or focus tasks.
Old Favorite: Group Like Tasks
This classic technique involves grouping like tasks that complement each other. Completed in succession or through strategic multitasking.
For example, while I’m writing for Consciousness Liberty I write and listen to music. And between writing sessions, I listen to content related to what I’m writing about to see if there is anything that can enhance the article. While listening to content, I like to do a habit task like cleaning, or organizing my computer desktop/workspace.
This is not an exact science, it’s an idea designed to give you a mindset shift around time and efficiency.
The world around us is evolving at a rapid pace, and so should we.
Take the ideas that work for you and design your conscious evolution. You will be pleasantly surprised by how much more you can accomplish.
Warning. Some of these practices can be advanced. Consciousness Liberty and its associates take no responsibility for any effects you may experience. All responsibility is taken by the practicer. Use with caution at your own discretion.
We are in a pivotal time in history. Our world is becoming more interconnected and information is flowing at an all-time high. There are endless distractions, services and products offered at your fingertips – and on the go.
With the onset of this informational age, we can have trouble with concentration, over-information, over-medication and performance.
The good news is that we are beginning to understand and leverage our tech and knowledge to improve the quality of our lives and enhance our performance.
Enter superconsciousness. We’ll start by defining what it is and how it can enhance every aspect of your life.
The ideas behind leveraging the superconscious state of mind are genius-level thinking, an empowering perspective, a startling flow of ideas, inspiration and excitement. We will be accessing the “higher self”, or the superconscious aspect of you that connects you to all the knowledge in the universe.
Within superconsciousness is the flow state. A state of being where you are mentally focused and clear. Otherwise known as “being in the zone.”
Here are more reasons to learn how to access the superconscious state:
Inspired action
Genius level thinking
Flow state
Brilliant ideas
Operating from love and absence of fear
Clearer or enhanced perception
Extrasensory perception
A broader perspective that one of the “ego” self
Self-confidence
Peacefulness
Compassion
Intuition
So let’s get into what the superconscious state of being is exactly.
There are varying levels of consciousness as defined by different schools of thought, ranging numerically within 3-7 levels, and more. They include subconscious, pre-conscious, conscious, unity conscious, higher consciousness, divine consciousness, cosmic consciousness and superconsciousness.
The different levels of consciousness create varying states of knowledge, perception and feelings.
What is true in one state of consciousness may not be so in another state.
“There is only consciousness in all its different expressions.”
Within the state of superconsciousness, you come into realization with a bigger part of “yourself”, “God”, “The Universe”. You release operating from a fear-based survival mindset into operating with a love-based, giving, service mindset.
Superconsciousness within the levels of consciousness
To illustrate, we’ll organize consciousness below in descending order from the highest realization and vibration to lowest:
Divine consciousness
Unity Consciousness
Cosmic Consciousness
Superconsciousness
Consciousness
Preconscious
Subconscious
Divine Consciousness – Seeing through the eyes of God. Nuff said.
Unity Consciousness – The state of consciousness that realizes that all is connected and we are all one. This can be an aspect of superconsciousness in its deeper or higher levels.
Cosmic Consciousness – Transcending sensory human consciousness. Loss of fear of death from “Knowing” that life and death are illusions from a more expanded perspective. Containing the Akashic Records or information about everything contained in the Universe.
Superconscious – Your mind connected to a bigger “self” accessing a perspective or ideas of superhuman abilities, genius thinking, broader perspective. It contains the qualities of interconnectedness, peace, bliss, clarity, love, altruism, service, safety and wellbeing.
Conscious – Your mind in a state of awareness and able to choose, direct, and reason.
Preconscious – The information within your mind that can be easily accessed into consciousness. This includes emotions or information that has not been repressed such as recalling your old address or phone number.
Subconscious – Below your conscious state or aware state and including your memories, stored emotions and experiences, automatic bio functions. Habits performed without “conscious thinking” and repressed or forgotten emotions and memories.
Superconsciousness As Related to Unity, Divine & Cosmic Consciousness
In superconsciousness, you can see the material dimension and the subtle interworkings of cosmic and unity consciousness and bring a broader perspective of ideas and optimal level of functioning to the human experience.
So in effect, superconsciousness at it’s higher levels overlaps with the lower levels of cosmic and unity consciousness.
So how can you reach the state of superconsciousness?
The broader perspective of superconsciousness can be measured in certain brainwave states known as lambda and epsilon frequencies. When you are in this brainwave functioning, the characteristics and experience of superconsciousness are present.
I’m not gonna put it to you lightly here. This is not always an easily achievable state. It usually takes practice and exercise.
Now that we understand the qualities of superconsciousness and the measurable frequency of superconsciousness, we can get into it.
Here are the various ways to attain superconsciousness. Before you get all excited and think you’re gonna be aaaallll superconscious for your next work project, let’s go over some prep.
The lambda and epsilon frequencies of superconsciousness are very high or low frequencies, meaning you need to train your body and mind to receive them.
If you do not train beforehand, it’s like trying to lift 10X the weight you usually lift at the gym with no prior training. Or like trying to run really high voltage into a lightbulb designed for low voltage. You’ll blow the lightbulb. I.e. you may hurt yourself.
You’re a bioelectrical being, so the lightbulb analogy is actually pretty accurate. Symptoms of blowing your personal bio-system may include,
Intense pressure in the body
Headaches
Psychosis
Unexplainable illness
Emotional instability
ranging from subtle to extreme.
So much like weight lifting, proper training needs to happen mentally, emotionally, spiritually and holistically.
Superconsciousness at its higher levels encompasses cosmic consciousness and even unity consciousness.
So to start training, we will access the lower levels of superconsciousness.
Accessing the Lower Levels of Superconsciousness
I will teach you to access the lower levels of superconsciousness to start. This is your higher self, intuition, genius thinking, flow state, heart intelligence and infinite intelligence.
There are 7 techniques below. And 3 bonus techniques that enhance the effects and make it easier to enter the lower levels of superconsciousness.
Remember that this takes consistent practice over time. The good news is that you can practice pretty much anytime you choose.
1. Get into love and gratitude states
You know that feeling where you’re in love and everything is perfect? This is the right frequency foundation. Feel love, feel gratitude. Just thinking about it is not enough.
Bonus: Get into a state of awe. Feel awe. Usually, you can find that feeling in the majesty of nature.
2. Keep your body moving and flexible
Walk, run, dance, swim, practice yoga. Keep your body healthy and flexible. A stiff body can inhibit the flow of energy and may also cause pressure or pain.
Bonus: Listen to your favorite song and let it move you. There are songs that just “take you there”. Songs that you absolutely love and take you to this inspired, pumped up, amazing place. Use those and allow the song to move your body.
3. Relax the mind and body
In order for energy to flow through the body, you need to relax it. Talk to Qui Gong practitioners. They’ll agree.
4. Ask for what you want
Set an intention. Align your mental energy for your desired outcome.
5. Allow it to flow
When your genius-level thinking, ideas and inspiration come, don’t question it, don’t crush the life out of it with logical, analytical or rational thinking. Ensure you allow it to flow to you by feeling worthy of it and trusting in it.
6. Eat clean and eat for vibration
In order to hold higher vibrations, you want to keep your body healthy and eat food that enhances that high vibration your going for. Usually, it’s eating clean (no junk food, no chemicals) and eating real food, not prepackaged foods.
This helps your body, the energy vessel, to better hold these higher frequencies. Fasting also allows for your body to move into higher vibrations.
Bonus: Note that eating meat grounds you. If you want to facilitate these vibrations refrain from eating meat around the time of practice.
7. Practice Transcendental Meditation
This is where things start to get a little more advanced. When you first start Transcendental Meditation, you will begin to tap into superconsciousness. As you continue to train in Transcendental meditation, you will eventually experience “the gap” an expanded level of consciousness that transcends your identification of self and your body. And you experience cosmic, super or unity consciousness. This coincides with lambda or epsilon brainwave states biologically. You will also be running much higher vibrational energy throughout your body.
Ready for some advanced superconscious state techniques? Stay tuned for my next post on advanced techniques for accessing the superconscious state.
Have questions or want to share your ideas or experience? Share below!
When performing any task – or series of tasks – such as work, exercising, conversing, dating, brainstorming, meditating etc. and you want to double or triple your productivity, the first thing you want to do is
Line up the energy around you and within you.
This creates a coherent, energetic focus, reduces friction and reduces the amount of time it takes to “get up to speed” or “get into flow” and maximize your productivity.
So how exactly do we do this?
We’ll start with the 10 step checklist to lining up your energy. It’s broken down into 2 main elements:
Your Environment (4 steps)
Yourself (6 steps)
Then, we’ll go over some examples of setups for tasks such as meditating and writing.
Here’s your checklist to lining up your energy:
1. Your Environment – Space
Where you perform the task. Create a space where you do that task and only that task. This helps for several reasons.
It acts as a trigger to train your brain to perform how it usually does when these environmental conditions are met.
It meets the requirements for the task at hand and is conducive to facilitating the task. That could mean that it provides the tools you need for the task, or people around you doing the same or similar tasks, or people that can be available to support you in your task.
2. Your Environment – Music
Select music that enhances the mood or feel of your task at hand for increasing performance.
Sometimes having no music is the way to go. Or you can use apps that create ambient sounds or music to help you in your task at hand. I like this app for ambient sound, Noisili.
3. Your Environment – Lighting
Lighting plays a huge role in energy alignment. It affects mood, biochemical production, and the general feel of a place. Use it to your advantage.
4. Your Environment – Misc
Including temperature, minimizing distractions, awareness of technology, food and scents.
5. Yourself – Body
Movement is a crucial determinant in thought and emotion. When you move or posture your body a specific way, it triggers your brain to feel that which you are embodying.
6. Yourself – Breath
The way you breathe has a profound impact on your state. Breathing short and fast stimulates your sympathetic nervous system and facilitates excitation and a state of anxiousness, adrenaline release or even anxiety as your body is prepared for action and self-preservation (flight or flight). Breathing slow and deep, in turn, signals your brain and body to go into parasympathetic or resting, relaxation mode. Either of which can help your task at hand.
7. Yourself – Emotions
Music plays a role in influencing emotions. You can also sit for a few minutes and consciously think of things that produce the desired emotion you want, then feel into that emotion. By “feel into” I mean focus on it, feel it and consciously maintain the feeling. Do this as long as you’d like to really get into that state of emotion you want. I recommend at least 20 seconds.
8. Yourself – Mental Commitment
Once you mentally commit to doing something, it has invaluable power to help you align all your resources into it’s completion. Good examples of this are:
Success stories of people with no plan B.
The ability for you to finish a 2-week task in 2 days because you know that you need to finish and turn it in by then.
9. Yourself – Mental Identity
The ability to see yourself as the right person for the task at hand. To believe in your ability to do it.
10. Yourself – Mental Flow
As you begin to align more and more elements, it’s easier to align yourself into mental flow or what many productivity gurus simply call “Flow”. It is a state of effortless, and sometimes genius-like, performance and productivity where the passing of time is forgotten, ideas and execution become effortless and brilliant and one is so absorbed in the task at hand that they lose themselves, per say, in the task.
Let’s take a look at some examples of tasks with these steps applied.
This is my setup.
Meditation
Environment – Space
Using the same space for meditation.
Using cushions.
Got used to using a blanket during meditation when it was cold, now it feels strange not to cover myself with a blanket. It immediately triggers a meditative state of consciousness.
Environment – Music
Depending on the type of meditation and outcome, music is optional. I usually prefer no music to lose sensual contact and shift into a loss of ego consciousness. Consciousness of self.
I use binaural beats if I want to entrain my brain to a certain frequency.
I listen to music to evoke feelings for Metta Meditation.
Environment – Lighting
No lighting is preferred. Lack of light stimulates pineal gland melatonin production and pineal gland simulation in general – which is great for meditation. 3rd eye stuff haha.
Environment – Misc
I may use incense or essential oils depending on the desired outcome.
Phones on airplane mode. I become very averse to cellphone and wifi frequencies while meditation and afterward.
Tibetian singing bowl to cleanse the space before meditation.
Yourself – Body
My go-to meditation position is half lotus pose.
Hands are upright, index finger to thumb usually. That changes depending on the desired outcome.
Tounge resting lightly on the roof of my mouth. Known as Jiva Bandha, it facilitates energetic flow.
Yourself – Breath
Deep and slow for relaxation and oxygenation.
Different breathing techniques, or pranayama, have different consciousness-altering effects.
Yourself – Emotions
I use music, thoughts or visualization to generate certain emotions for desired meditation outcomes. Great for Metta meditation or generating love vibration for the experience in itself and bliss.
Yourself – Mental Commitment
I meditate every night. I know I’m going to do it and am committed to it, even if it’s late because I’m aware that it benefits my life.
The daily routine helps take any question or hesitation out of it.
Yourself – Mental Identity
I consider myself someone who meditates regularly and is spiritually inclined.
Yourself – Mental Flow
Everything else mentioned facilitates the energy and triggers the state to get into “flow”. In meditation, flow creates feelings of bliss, expansion and connection; and the absence of fear. I know I’m in flow when I’m in this consciousness state.
Writing
When I write for Consciousness Liberty, here’s my setup.
Environment – Space
Go to a cafe and order a drink. Usually coffee.
I like having the feeling of people around while writing or working.
Minimizes the opportunity for distractions or engaging in other activities like being at home does.
Preferably a patio or nature scene if the weather is nice.
Environment – Music
Usually, play a fast or powerful instrumental to free write. Sometimes it’s a slower music flow. Music definitely helps a lot.
I use headphones almost all the time when writing in a cafe. I’m looking for immersion into my writing.
Environment – Lighting
Natural sunlight is preferred. Sitting next to a window or outside.
Environment – Misc
I like the ambiance of a beautiful cafe.
Warm cozy atmosphere or beautiful patio day.
As for scents, tastes, and nervous system stimulation – coffee.
Yourself – Body
Sitting in alert, attentive posture while writing.
Yourself – Breath
Take a few deep breaths when I get stuck or caught up.
I also bring my attention to how I’m breathing from time to time.
Yourself – Emotions
When writing in flow, I use music to help bring out an emotion related to what I’m writing about. Hands down, big influencer.
Yourself – Mental Commitment
I drive to the cafe for the sole purpose of writing. When I sit in the chair to write, I’m not going anywhere else, doing anything else – I’m fully committed.
I also have a day a week I reserve to write.
Yourself – Mental Identity
I identify with Consciousness Liberty and the values within it – no question.
Yourself – Mental Flow
After several minutes, ideas begin to flow and I flow with it. As I follow this ritual, it’s becoming easier and easier to get into flow faster.
So, you get the idea.
If you’re thinking right now, “Oh yeah those are obvious basics,” then congrats, you already understand the concept.
We recognize intuitively when “something is off.” When you’re at a fine dining restaurant and the lighting isn’t right, you’ll feel it. You may not always recognize the specific factor, but you’ll feel it.
The idea is that you apply this concept and checklist of aligning your energy first, then tweak and test to maximize productivity.
How can you maximize alignment in a brainstorming session, before a big speech, before a competition, to facilitate rigorous training, for getting into flow faster, for sustained performance, etc?
This post relates to one of the most important concepts of Consciousness Liberty.
Finding and living your truth.
The purpose behind Consciousness Liberty is to give you the tools and mindset shifts that will create mental self-liberation so you can live in your authenticity and FIND/LIVE YOUR TRUTH.
Years ago, I was living the corporate life and I had this burning, insatiable desire to find “truth.” I didn’t know what that meant. I just knew I “NEEDED” to go find it. So I left – backpack in hand – to explore the world and more importantly to explore myself and find truth.
And I found truth.
I was beyond excited that I had discovered this key to life and HAD to SHARE it with the world – when a voice inside of me said,
“No, do not share this as truth, this is YOUR truth, not everyone’s truth.”
I began to realize that – although there are some concepts that seem to resonate universally – we are all a unique collection of our experiences, beliefs, teachings, perceptions, perspectives and DNA. We can process experiences in endless amounts of variations of perceptions.
What is meaningful to you may not be meaningful to someone else and vice versa.
The important thing is that you find what resonates with YOU. What strikes a cord deep in the core of your being so strong, so right that you are bulletproof. No amount of opinions and convincing from others can shake you. It is the priciple you live by that gives you satisfaction and fulfillment.
In that moment, I realized that inside everyone’s consciousness is the entire universe from their own personal and unique point of view and that it is as unique as the person themselves. Truth is personal. Truth is relative.
So how is truth relative? Personal?
Truth is defined to be based on “reality.”
If you’ve ever had a “mind-enhancing” experience you will understand that “reality” can shift drastically. If you’ve been in a mindstate where time slows down or speeds up or you drove home from work and thought, “Wow how did I get here?” Or if you’ve ever gotten drunk, you can see that reality shifts based on the thoughts, perceptions, functions and chemicals in your brain.
What about things that are scientifically proven? What about things like gravity? What about the sun rising every morning?
There is such a thing as collective consciousness – A shared energy and perspective that creates our reality. Tom Chi, Co-Founder of Google X and Founder at Prototype Thinking LLC, explains it as “The Pallet of Being”
You can see reality as relative based on the fact that when you observe sometime you have the ability to change its manifestation or action based on your observation of it. This was observed in the famous quantum mechanics experiment, the Double Slit Experiment
Welcome to Consciousness Liberty. We are the light that illuminates your truth.
And you know what they say about truth? It sets you free. Free from all the noise, limitations, fears and status quo.
Here’s the Gameplan
We are going to dive deeper into the recursive, meta-definition of truth and reality.
Challenge that definition.
Provide examples and bring up theories which provide explanations to the relative nature of truth and reality.
Blow your mind.
Show you how to apply it practically.
Ok #4, maaybeee. haha. Maybe.
Ready? Let’s dive deeper into truth. What is it?
Definition of Truth
1a(1): The body of real things, events, and facts : ACTUALITY (2): The state of being the case : FACT 2a: The property (as of a statement) of being in accord with fact or reality. (3) Often capitalized: A transcendent fundamental or spiritual reality b: A judgment, proposition, or idea that is true or accepted as true
The definition of truth is defined with the word Truth itself, along with the words Actuality, Reality and Fact.
Let’s go deeper still.
Definition of Actuality
1: The quality or state of being actual. 2: Something that is actual: FACT, REALITY possible risks which have been seized upon as actualities— T. S. Eliot. In actuality: in actual fact
The definition of Actuality is described by pretty much itself (lol) and the words Fact and Reality.
Moving on…
Definition of Fact
1a: Something that has actual existence. Space exploration is now a fact. b: An actual occurrence. Prove the fact of damage 2: A piece of information presented as having objective reality. These are the hard facts of the case. 3: The quality of being actual: ACTUALITY A question of fact hinges on evidence 4: a thing done: such as a: CRIME accessory after the fact.
Fact is defined by Actuality, Reality and Objective Reality.
Noticing a pattern here?
Definition of Reality
1: The quality or state of being real. 2a(1): A real event, entity, or state of affairs. His dream became a reality (2): The totality of real things and events trying to escape from reality. b: Something that is neither derivative nor dependent but exists necessarily.
Reality – the state of being real. Awesome thanks for that, haha! Facepalm.
Let’s move on..
Here’s where we’re at.
Truth =Actuality, reality and fact.
Actuality = Fact, reality and objective reality.
Fact = Actuality or reality.
Reality = real, reality.
It’s a never-ending loop that struggles for a true definition within the same few words and collapses back onto itself. Although there is an interesting phrase to pull out of this – objective reality.
Alright, let’s look up “objective reality”.
Not in the dictionary.
Diving into philosophy, here are a few definitions:
What is “Objective Reality”?
“The objective reality is the collection of things that we are sure exist independently of us. Every person is able, in principle, to verify every aspect of the objective reality. Anything that cannot be verified in this way is not part of the objective reality.”
“Many philosophers would use the term “objective reality” to refer to anything that exists as it is independent of any conscious awareness of it (via perception, thought, etc.).”
https://www.iep.utm.edu/objectiv/#SH2a
The argument for objective reality is anything that can be measured apart from perception – i.e. using tools of measurement.
For example:
You are holding ice in 1 hand and something a hot beverage in the other hand.
Then at the same time put both hands into a bucket of water.
The hand that was holding ice will feel warmer and the hand that was holding the hot beverage will feel colder in that same bucket. Yet the bucket of water remains the bucket of water itself. Nothing has changed with it – Although there are 2 perceptions of what it is based on subjective (perceived) reality.
So in this example, the “objective reality” is the bucket of water.
Collective Consciousness Does Not Prove Absolute Reality
Now, what if?…
What if the proposed subject is experiencing this bucket of water while under the influence of LSD, an hallucinogenic enabler.
Now the bucket of water is changing colors, talking to the subject and creating little pictures for the subjects amusement. A subjective experience.
Now imagine that a large majority of subjects all experience the bucket on LSD. Everyone believes the bucket of water is a talking, rainbow that draws pictures. It becomes “collective truth or wisdom” based on a multitude of perceptions that agree. But it does NOT make it truth. It is basically universal subjective reality – not objective.
Challenging The Bucket of Water as an “Objective Reality”
And yet the bucket of water is still the bucket of water. Even with instruments of measurement, we are still relying on perception to interpret or read the results. Therefore, all we can “know” about reality MUST be perceived – MUST be subjective.
The bucket of water is still the bucket of water – Yet we cannot “know” it because we MUST perceive it.
We Cannot “Know” Reality, Only Conceptualize it: Plato’s Theory of Reality
Plato argued that truth is an abstraction divorced from the so called “external world”. (4,5)
If you take the bucket of water example, the bucket can be perceived in endless ways by various consciousnesses: hot, cold, 77º F, H20, energy waves, particles, wet, reflective etc.
However, there is a constant that consciousness seems to agree on.
“This” is what “that thing” IS to them. The ESSENCE of it.
Immanuel Kant used the expression “Ding an sich” (the “thing-in-itself”) to designate pure objectivity. (2)
Even with different words to describe the water, or different perceptions of it – that is what “bucket of waterness” is to the subject. The idea of it. In his Theory of Forms, Plato taught that ideals are ultimately real.
“The Theory of Forms or Theory of Ideas is a philosophical theory, concept, or world-view, attributed to Plato, that the physical world is not as real or true as eternal, absolute, unchangeable ideas. According to this theory, ideas in this sense, often capitalized and translated as “Ideas” or “Forms”, are the non-physical essences of all things, of which objects and matter in the physical world are merely imitations. “
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_forms
Basically, Plato argues that ideas can be absolute, “or hold an absolute turth/ reality. It’s a mental playing field. And – Also the 1st law of the Hermetic Universal Truths. The Principle of Mentalism “All is mind”. Which is in itself a concept.
Along with the ideas/ concepts/ philosophies of Hermetism, we have scientific “truths” of physics, quantum physics etc. which do not hold constant or absolutely true.
With the arrival of quantum physics disproving the absoluteness of physics – physists struggled to find an absolute theory of everything. Einstein tried and did not succeed. Hawkings ensued and also did not succeed. Physists are still trying. (12)
Even universal principles cease their universiality when you imagine a reality existing outside of everything we know.
Imagine a world where the world is square, with new laws of physics and new “forms”, colors, object, experiences that which don’t exist in anything we’ve ever come across or have the capacity to perceive or imagine.
Possible, and therfore all “truths” crumble to this potentiality.
If We Cannot “Know” Something, It Falls Outside of Our Reality and is Not Real to Us – Except as a Concept.
Here’s an example. Imagine the entire world is blind. Everyone. We have no ability to perceive, to know sight. If we were introduced to “sight” could we see it?
There is an interesting study of a man – dubbed Mr. Pentagon – born blind, and his experiences on the potent hallucinogenic, LSD.
“I never had any visual images come to me. I can’t see or imagine what light or dark might look like,” Mr. Blue Pentagon told the researchers. But under the influence of LSD (lysergic acid diethylamide, also known as acid), sounds felt unique and listening to music felt like being immersed in a waterfall, he said. “The music of Bach’s third Brandenburg concerto brought on the waterfall effect. I could hear violins playing in my soul and found myself having a one hour long monologue using different tones of voices … LSD gave everything ‘height.’ The sounds coming from songs I would normally listen to became three dimensional, deep and delayed.”
Having never “known” sight and being born without the ability for sight, Mr. Pentagon did not have any visual images. Of the LSD “reality” which was experienced, sight was not included. Inexperienceable, incomprehesible.
We as perceiving being cannot “know” absolutes, yet only entertain ourselves using concepts, ideas, principles, etc. about absolutes.
Therefore truth and reality are based on personal perceptions based on our unique makeup, ideals, and collective reality. (Collective reality: the reality a collective group of consciousness (people per say) can agree on.)
Spiritually speaking, Truth is found once we become “enlightened”. It’s defined as the “full comprehension of a situation” (9) The experience of Enlightenment is still a perceived reality.
If there is an “absolute reality” we cannot perceive it.
We are biased, perceptual beings by nature. Therefore it falls outside of our reality and doesn’t exist to us, except in concept or ideal, as Plato defines.
Theoretically, if we we are to entertain the idea of an absolute reality and see it through the absolute, all inclusive eyes of “Source” “God” “All” – we would see absolute reality as the all inclusive potentiality of being. This is considering all possible genetic combinations, perspectives, genetic makeup, information and perception (thus being absolute consciousness) or conversely, non at all (thus being absolute consciousness). This thoery is also proposed by Bishop Berkley’s Idealism thoery (10).
Absolute truth and reality would be everything – and also unknown to us.
Therefore falling outside of our scope of reality or ability to perceive and know, except as a conceptual imaginative creation, an ideal.
Within our perception of reality, Truth is relative. Reality is relative.
For Practical Application
Your truth is personal and as unique as you are.
Do not impose your truth onto others.
When in an argument about “Who is right” keep in mind there are multiple realities. All are true to the consciousness that believes or “holds” them as true.
Find your truth and live it. It’s only yours.
The definition of truth as a circular meta-reference alludes to our inability to “know” it.
And YOUR TRUTH will set you free. In your integrity. In your authenticity. In your congruency. In your unique expression onto this world.
There is no such thing as being a left or a right-brained person.
We were born with both sides of the brain to use both sides of the brain.
In contemporary western society – specifically the business sector – we tend to favor our left brain’s analytical, logical, focused thinking.
Society has conditioned us to identify and favor one side of the brain, so we identify with either being left or right brain and tend to use only one side. We say things like, “Oh, I’m just not a creative person.” or “I’m not a numbers person.”
What if you could have both?
Luckily, you can!
Favoring one side of the brain creates limitation and mental imbalance characterized by migraines, stress, brain fogginess, memory lapse, anxiety and a limited and narrow capacity for thinking and functioning.
Let’s take a look at what the left and right hemispheres are designed to do
To simplify:
Left hemisphere thinking: Generally more sequential, linear, logical, practical, mathematical, analytical, scientific, and time-oriented.
Right hemisphere thinking: More non-linear, intuitive, abstract, big-picture focused, creative, and space-oriented.
It appears to be common knowledge that the right side of the brain is creative and language-based and the left brain is logic and analytics based. In reality, both sides of the brain handle both analytic and creative elements. It’s just that one side of the brain is more specialized for a certain type of action. [10]
There is an interesting phenomenon that happens when you take on a certain task. One side of your brain will take on the task even if it’s not specialized for the task, and your brain will not switch over to the other side of the brain, even if the task is better suited. It will just take the task and run with it. You could be using the less suited side of your brain or missing out on entire regions of your brain when functioning and thinking. [9]
When you don’t use one side of the brain, your brain defaults to what it’s used to and the parts that don’t get used atrophy. This creates a narrow-minded view of the world, limited thinking capacity and neurological imbalance. It’s like trying to draw a picture using word processing software instead of Photoshop or an image editing software. It’s just not the best tool for the job.
We are going to explore how to achieve brain synchronization, strengthen the parts of the brain that don’t get used as often, create new neurological connections in the brain, and balance your central nervous system for a great deal of physical, mental, and emotional benefits.
It’s time to maximize the use of your brain and maximize your potential.
“This relative shift in hemispheric dominance (from left-brain dominance to whole-brain dominance) may result in therapeutic effects which are likely to enhance mind-body integration and overall improvements in physical and emotional health. Because of a reduction in cognitive activities during moments of whole brain synchrony, it is believed that negative thinking, self-punitive thoughts and excessive worrying are apt to slow down and consequently a reduction in cognitive anxiety is experienced.”
You have two sides of the brain so why not use both to your advantage? Why not use them together to achieve powerful results of increased focus, super learning and enhanced creativity.
You can do this through brain synchronization.
First of all, what is brain synchronization?
“[Synchronization] Coherence is one mathematical method that can be used to determine if two or more sensors, or brain regions, have similar neuronal oscillatory activity with each other.” or thus in sync with each other.
The oscillatory activity of wavelengths is detected with an Electroencephalography (EEG) or Magnetoencephalography (MEG) machine and then analyzed with several types of mathematical algorithms.
What are the benefits of brain synchronization?
Being able to combine or connect each part of the brain’s specialty is like bringing together a team of experts, all in your brain.
Brain coherence creates homeostasis in your central nervous system and allows for more flexibility in thinking. You are able to draw upon the strengths of your brain in both the analytical and creative sense, increased peacefulness and clarity of mind, increased sports performance, memory, health, emotional stability, focus, less stress, better sleep, allowance for super learning and more energy. [2]
Brain synchronization also reduces migraines, fogginess, and memory lapses and helps build clarity, concise thinking, and help recover maximum functionality.
So you’re probably thinking, “YES! Let’s do this! How do we begin?”
Before we get carried away with brain synchronization, it’s important to note that your brain has evolved into two separate hemispheres for important reasons.
“It doesn’t seem feasible for the hemispheres to fully share information or to operate in a fully unified fashion. Moreover, in a lot of cases, keeping things separate is (literally!) the smarter way for the hemispheres to function. Dividing up tasks and allowing the hemispheres to work semi-independently and take different approaches to the same problem seems to be a good strategy for the brain … just as it often is in partnerships between people.”
Kara D. Federmeier, cognitive neuroscientist [http://sequencewiz.org/2014/08/13/integrating-right-and-left-brain/]
In order to survive, our brains evolved the ability to focus simultaneously on two things at a given time. The left brain is designed to focus on what you give your attention to – a more narrow, detail and time-oriented design – while the right brain stays available to focus on all the dangers and what if’s – a broader and spacial oriented design. [10]
This is designed to keep you alive, in case you’re minding your own business, observing some cool stuff and an unexpected danger comes your way. Or in nature – while you’re hunting and potentially being hunted.
Pretty awesome right?
So usually, that’s how it works, although there are some specialized tasks that benefit from using both sides of the brain and various regions of the brain in communication.
What is brain synchronicity best used for?
Sometimes you want your brain hemispheres to function independently and sometimes you want them to synchronize. When is the best time to maximize brain synchronization?
Exercise & Playing sports – Coordination and physical execution.
Brainstorming – generating ideas, creative thinking, writing or “downloads” – spontaneous bursts of genius thinking or ideas that pop into your mind.
Neurological balance – central nervous system balance, limbic system/mood balance, clear thinking, removing fogginess or migraines/headaches, promoting peacefulness.
Positivity – Enhancing positive outlook on life and positive thoughts.
Super learning – Enhancing the capacity for learning and retaining information in the brain through strengthening and facilitating information transfer in various regions of the brain. The striatum learns things quickly, while the prefrontal cortex puts the pieces together to understand the big picture. If the communication is not effective or present, you will have more ability with understanding and retaining the information.
“The striatum learns very simple things really quickly, and then its output trains the prefrontal cortex to gradually pick up on the bigger picture,” Miller says. “The striatum learns the pieces of the puzzle, and then the prefrontal cortex puts the pieces of the puzzle together.”
– Dr. Jeffrey Miller [http://news.mit.edu/2014/synchronized-brain-waves-enable-rapid-learning-0612 ]
Brain Regions
Neuroimaging brain studies have found that there are specific regions of the brain that are specialized at processing certain types of information. There is also evidence that shows that separate specialized parts of the brain communicate with each other in order to combine their specialties and increase the effectiveness of thought.
Each region is designed to specialize in a specific task and when tasks require various specialties, the brain is designed to communicate through neurons firing to each other on the same frequency – thus brain synchronization.
“C. Maxwell Cade, in his research concerning the mind and its states of awareness, concluded that peak mental functioning is associated with bilateral hemispheric synchrony.”
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Biologically, how does brain sync work?
The left and right hemispheres of our brain are physically separate. The deep groove that separates them is called the longitudinal fissure. There is a band that connects them called the corpus callosum (see image below). The corpus callosum, the bundle of nerve fibers that connects our brain hemispheres, is the bridge or communication center between the two hemispheres.
Studies have shown the corpus callosum is thicker in ambidextrous people and people who meditate.
Studies have shown ambidextrous people (Being ambidextrous technically means equal with both hands) to be better able to read people, see both sides of an issue, and recall details of an event and their context. Better integration and balance of the brain hemispheres allows a better kind of thinking.[2]
A 2012 UCLA School of Medicine study found that the “corpus callosum,” the grand central station-like cable of nerves cross-linking the brain hemispheres, was remarkably stronger, thicker, and more well connected in meditation practitioners.
Dominantly using only one side of your brain, causes shrinkage in the areas of your brain that are not being used, such as the corpus callosum.
Just like building muscles with exercise, you will strengthen and build your corpus callosum with use to be able to more easily communicate between your brain hemispheres.
Brain synchronization and the formation of new neurological connections
It has been shown that brainwave synchronization likely precedes the changes in synapses, or connections between neurons, believed to underlie learning and long-term memory formation.
Through the brain’s neuroplasticity, it’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. [3] Over time you can rewire and reform it use it’s maximum potential.
“If you can change your thoughts from moment to moment, you can’t be doing it by constantly making new connections and breaking them apart in your brain. Plasticity doesn’t happen on that kind of time scale.”
“There’s got to be some way of dynamically establishing circuits to correspond to the thoughts we’re having in this moment, and then if we change our minds a moment later, those circuits break apart somehow. We think synchronized brain waves may be the way the brain does it.”
– Miller, member of MIT’s Picower Institute for Learning and Memory [http://news.mit.edu/2014/synchronized-brain-waves-enable-rapid-learning-0612]
How to synchronize the brain
There are several ways that brain synchronization can be achieved.
1. Meditation
One of the most effective ways to create left and right brain synchronization is meditation. Meditation balances your left and right brain hemispheres and strengthens your corpus callosum. [8]
“During meditation, the grand central station-like cable of nerves connecting your two brain hemispheres, the corpus callosum — becomes deeply stimulated, much like a joggers legs on a long run.”
The left side of the brain controls the right side of the body, and the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body. Using both sides of your body uses and strengthens both sides of the brain improving coordination.
You can also focus on crossing the midline of your body by touching one side of your body to the other, such as your left hand on your right knee. When doing so, your brain sends signals from one hemisphere to the other.
3. Alternate Nostril Breathing (Nadi Shodhana)
This technique has been used by yogis throughout history to purify the nadis or energy channels in the body. The nasal cycle has been scientifically shown to be linked to the opposite hemispheric dominance.
When your right nostril is dominant, the EEG (electroencephalogram) measured activity in the brain is greater in the left hemisphere of your brain – and vice versa. When the nostril dominance switches, so does the activity of the brain hemisphere.
Follow along with Adriene in the video below to learn how to do Nadi Shodhana.
4. Switching Up Your Routine
If you are normally someone who is logical and analytical, try a free-thinking approach or ideology outside of your normal routine and vice versa. Use your non-dominant hand for activities such as brushing your teeth or eating.
The left brain is better suited for familiar movements, while the right brain is better suited for new ones. Variation in movement activates both sides of your brain.
5. Binaural Beats & Hemi Sync Technology
One of the easiest ways to sync the left and right hemispheres of your brain is through binaural beats. This involves delivering sound waves of sightly different frequencies through headphones into each each to produce brainwave entrainment that follows the difference in hertz between each frequency.
So if one ear is hearing 100 HZ and the other is hearing 107 HZ, there is a difference of 7 HZ and your brain will entrain (or follow) the frequency of 7 HZ, thus falling into theta brainwave frequency. Read more about brainwave frequencies here.
“Brainwave entrainment, also referred to as brainwave synchronization and neural entrainment, refers to the capacity of the brain to naturally synchronize its brainwave frequencies with the rhythm of periodic external stimuli, most commonly auditory, visual, or tactile.”
Basically, the brain will begin to sync with the same vibrations it is exposed to.
“By entraining brainwaves with binaural beats using headphones, it is possible to float the brain in this state of hemispheric synchronization for prolonged periods. Each time we do this, it is like exercising a new brain function, which makes the brain more able to engage this function as it’s normal repertoire of behavior,”
“Using sound in these ways, it is possible to make profound changes in brainwave patterns and states of consciousness, observable on brainwave mapping equipment (EEG), as well as positive changes in the body, measurable with blood tests, bio-feedback equipment and other sophisticated procedures. We are also able to influence the core balance and functioning of the brain and central nervous system as a whole.”
– Dr. Jeffrey Thompson. Founder/ Director of The Center for Neuroacoustic Research in Carlsbad, California [https://scientificsounds.com/index.php/library/neuroacoustics-the-healing-power-of-sound]
Our brains are usually in the beta brainwave frequency of alertness and concentration, so it’s good to entrain your brain back to alpha, theta or delta frequencies, promoting relaxation while syncing your brain hemispheres. To read more about brainwave frequencies, click here.
Hemi-Sync technology is specifically designed to achieve brain synchronization and induce various desired states of consciousness such as deep relaxation or focused attention. [5]
You can also find various videos on brain synchronization by searching online for “brain synchronization binaural beats”.
6. Listening To or Playing A Musical Instrument
Various studies have been done on the effects of music on the brain. Listening to music lights up the large-scale neural networks of the brain associated with emotion (limbic system), listening, motor (movement) skills and creativity.
Playing music is unique because it engages the right brain, through focus on the melody in music. The left hemisphere is responsible for the understanding of musical structure and motor skills when playing the instrument.
Listening to music and playing instruments strengthens the various areas of the brain and their connections and improves the amount of neural response to stimuli for increased coordination and sensitivity. [6, 16, 17]
How do I know when my brain is synchronized?
Good question.
You can tell when you feel clarity of mind, when you feel “in the zone”, awesome ideas are flowing and you feel present and vibrant.
You can also tell by the positive outlook you have on life and the feeling of being unstoppable.
You can also tell by your coordination ability. When you’re playing the guitar smoothly and flawlessly or making shots while playing sports.
You get the idea.
Remember, just like exercise, over time you will strengthen the various regions of the brain responsible for synchronization and facilitate information transfer, optimal thinking, coordination and memory, a balanced neural system and a positive outlook on life.
Not bad huh? You’ll feel like you have superpowers.
