Embrace the Contrast. Leverage “Suck” and Become an Alchemist.

Most of us can agree that life knows how to throw punches – hard. We have been lifted up, then beaten down again by life. Many of us try to avoid as much of that pain, that “suck”, those lows, as much as possible.

And we show social media just how successful we are at it.

We look for the highlights of our life to answer the questions, “How’ve you been?” and “What’s been going on?”

We wish, we manifest for more happiness, more success, more love, more beauty, more living in the moment. And yet, there are many moments in our life when we’re challenged, we’re afraid, we’re tired, we’re going through it.

But here’s the thing.

There is nothing wrong with you if you are not happy. The challenges of your life are the beautiful story for the main character, you, to learn, to improve, to transcend, to expand.

And a lot of time it looks like pain, it looks like failure. It looks like suck.

It’s time to embrace the contrast. Leverage the suck.

Let’s dive in.

The real gold in life is learning how to steer in the storm, dance in the fire, and befriend the darkness.

Generally speaking, we spend most of our time trying to be happy and comfortable. Making the temperature just right, eating when we are hungry, enjoying treats, and avoiding pain – physical, mental, and emotional. And yet, are still faced with this emptiness. This desire for more. This longing for the next better thing. That’s human.

And yet,

Pain is Where You Find Your Treasure

Something magical happens when you are able to face pain. Your way of thinking changes, your mind becomes more resilient, and your body becomes more resilient. Remember the post on anti-fragility? It’s basically this concept.

In adversity, you experience what some people call “character development” or “building character”. It makes you a better person. It brings people closer together. It’s where you discover what you’re made of, and you surprise yourself with your growth and strength.

Or you crash and burn and try again later.

Sometimes we call that failure. But then again it’s not really failure. It’s the uncomfortable place where our edges are. Where we generally have or do not have the skills for what we want to undertake or accomplish.

The Blessing of Failure Learning

We are made from our words as people.

Failure is not the right word. It is more apt to say learning.

Either we succeed or we learn. Failure is learning.

So we win, succeed, accomplish – or we learn.

What a blessing it is to learn.

Why?

Because you have the opportunity to see exactly how you can grow as a person. How you can “build character” and drop the illusion that you are “better” than you really are.

Sometimes you have to take a hard look at yourself and say, “Oh wow, I’m not that good” and this experience shows me where I can improve.

The Alchemy of Leveraging “Suck”

So to sum up, no checklist here. There is only 1 thing you need to do when things suck.

See it as your big chance to improve.

Your opportunity to learn.

To be challenged and overcome.

To become golden.

Unphased by the storm and enjoying the challenge of steering in it.

REFRAME your ATTITUDE to face the challenge. And to actually ENJOY the challenge. Or at least to sit in the conscious awareness and non judgementalism of the challenge.

Or feel sorry for yourself along the way.

There are 2 ways this goes,

  1. If you absolutely cannot face the challenge, then get some rest. Treat yourself with grace and love and start again when you’re ready.
  2. Face it.

So let’s say you decide to face it.

You’ve already won in improving your character and strength just by facing the challenge at hand. We’ll call this growth. A.k.a. you know how to do hard things.

You win at the challenge, leading to happiness and satisfaction. You reach your edge and expand.

Or

You fail learn. And this, my friend, is your golden moment where you are in “double suck”. You faced a hard challenge (which is painful) and did not succeed (that’s pain on pain).

Take a good honest look at yourself. Realize that you are missing certain skills, components, knowledge, etc. to succeed. Take note, write it down. Try again.

Take a deep breath of awareness and realize that you are an alchemist. Find joy in the process. Find pleasure in your painful growth. Smile in the storm of adversity.

Turning lead Suck Into Gold

It is in this very low moment, that you find yourself in the middle of this challenge, and you own your power by realizing that you are in control of your response. And you can choose to accept > then enjoy it.

How exactly? Let’s illustrate.

Remember the movie, 300? The Spartans are at war with the Persians.

  • The Persian says, “Our arrows will blot out the sun.” (<<< This is your challenge)
  • And the Spartan responds with “Then we will fight in the shade.” (<<< That’s you, alchemist, not only facing, but enjoying – LEVERAGING – the challenge to your best ability)

The Key

It takes practice. It may take time. It’s key to maintain awareness throughout.

See the Spartan’s face? He’s up for it. Embracing the challenge. Embracing the inner fire.

This is a thing that humans have that is usually tossed into our shadow side, or thrown into the “masochist” label. It’s that we actually enjoy a challenge and a little “suck”. We also call that “badass”.

And we like that – in movies, in superheroes, in fantasy. But when it comes to our own lives, we forget that we can choose to be the hero in our own lives. Or the victim.

Lean into your inner fire. Your inner strength. And see the golden opportunity of your expansion in the challenge.

Use animalistic energy + divine perspective.

Wolf with yellow eyes and intense look.

Congratulations alchemist. This is a way to turn lead into gold. Side effects may include self-satisfaction, happiness, the conscious evolution of your spirit, and the liberty to experience life without shrinking, constraining, or resisting, reduced anxiety, and less feeling sorry for yourself. To realize, or see, your power.

Much love,

Jacqueline

Apply the Law of Duality & Get Anything You Want

“All you judge is the comparison.”

– Consciousness Liberty

Human existence is dualistic.

This means we make sense of our world by comparing one thing to another. In order to “know” one thing as a human, you must “know” its other side.

For example, most people perceive hot and cold two opposite things. They are actually the same thing. The same spectrum. 2 sides of the same coin.

The “coin” is the spectrum. 

Although they are on the same line, they are on different sides of the spectrum, which is why we perceive them as opposites.

This law is known as Principle IV: The Principle of Polarity

“Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”

– The Kybalion

This principle embodies the truth that everything is dual, polar and has an opposite. We can know something by comparing it to something else. These “opposites” are varying degrees of the same thing, located on the same scale, on the same line.

In human existence, what you judge as being opposites are actually variations of the same thing.

So in order to “know” one, or to “get closer” to one, you “know the other”. That contrast is what allows you to “see” it.

You cannot know one without knowing the other.

This is Universal Law as explained in the Hermetic text, the Kybalion.

and this law operates in dualistic consciousness – A.K.A human existence.

NOTE: Not all consciousness states are dualistic. Within unity consciousness, there is no good and bad, no hot and cold, no there or here, no right now or later.

They ARE.

And many times, they ARE BOTH – and NEITHER.

Ok, back to the dualistic human experience.

So here’s where it gets awesome because it’s how you get everything you want.

It works like this:

  • To get something you give it away.
  • To take control you give up control.
  • To know what you want you must know what you don’t want.
  • To gain freedom you must discipline yourself

Can’t I just get the thing I want, instead of looking for it’s opposite?

Naturally, if you want something you just go and get it.

But for all the things that you believe are harder to attain or you do not “know” (a.k.a have not experienced), you may find it hard to get for 2 reasons.

  1. The law of attraction, a.k.a, Principle I: The Principle of Mentalism. You perpetually create a state of want which creates a state of want, which creates a state of want, causing more want to appear until you start to seriously doubt yourself in it’s attainment. #Manifesationtroubleshooting 😛
  2. You will not be able to see it when you have it. You will not know it, feel it and thereby it goes undetected by you.

So that’s the human way of doing things…

Then there’s the energy alchemist way, using applied knowledge to your benefits to shortcut the process. That’s why we’re here my friend. 😉

Think of it as an operating manual to the multi universal being that you are.

Why Does it Work?

Once you understand that these “seemingly opposites” lie on the same line of a spectrum, the scale can be easily adjusted from, metaphorically speaking, left to right, right to left. Take hold and cold, and dull and sharp. You can slide from cold into hot, but you cannot slide from cold into sharp. That is a different line. You have the ability to transmute sadness to happiness. To go from scattered to focused.

The Law of Duality (Principle of Polarity) works hand in hand with all the universal principles, as shown with the law of attraction, Principle l: The principle of mentalism. It also works very closely with principle V.

Principle V: The Principle of Rhythm

“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates.”

-The Kybalion

What it is:

This principle embodies the truth that in everything there is manifested a measured motion, to and fro; a flow and inflow, backward and forward. It is a pendulum-like movement between the two poles which exist in accordance with the Principle of Polarity described a moment ago.

We see and understand the rise-and-fall behavior of these energy waves that permeate our existence.

Rhythm

So, how do I get to the polar opposite?

When you are going through the darkest of times you can realize that you are on the same spectrum of the best times of your life.

You can learn to navigate that line and experience it’s polar “opposite”.

The secret is not to force it. Let everything have it’s time, as it has it’s purpose and to rest in the certainty that “what goes up will go down” and vice-versa.

It’s Universal law and it’s science.

So check out the rise and fall of those waves. That same “up and down” works closely with Principle III: Th Principle of Vibration, which states that everything vibrates and everything is in constant motion.

Therefore, when you “know” something such as pain, that will naturally swing to pleasure because that swing is a natural physical law.

So take temperature as an example. If you are sort of warm and put your hands in hot water (not burning), you feel more warmth. But, if you hands are freezing and you put your hands in hot water your feel much more contrast, more extreme, more heat.

And it gets better…

If you “know” or experience an extreme polarity upon the same line, you can enhance your capacity for experience of the other pole.

You know the “hit rock bottom” just before you “make it big” scenario?

Or the people who have deep personal struggles expand their capacity for love and compassion.

How do I know what is on the same spectrum?

Some are obvious, cold and hot, black and white, some not so obvious at first glance – apathy and love, depression and motivation. (Btw, if you keep going towards the more extreme of motivation you get inspiration.)

– Consciousness Liberty

Many “not so obvious at first” spectrums I found through experience. Once you have the awareness to look out for them, you will find what is true for you. Truth is personal, not universal.

So now you know how to leverage the Law of Duality.

Be a giver, be a lover, be yourself. And get anything you want. 😉